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Take responsibility of your life

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Is there something about your life that you don´t like? Is there something you would want to change?

For most of us is possible to change what we don´t like about our life, I say most of us because we need to have the right mindset. If there´s something we don´t like about our life we need to realize that we are responsible of it, we are the ones making decisions and choices that lead to where we are now so realizing that we are responsible and that it´s on our hands, it´s on us to continue this way or make the necessary changes.

We need to make a decision and make the commitment to change then take action and be disciplined. It is hard to make changes and it takes time but if we are committed to improve any aspect of our life we will work as hard as we need especially when we start seeing progress.

It all starts by taking responsibility for everything we do that is on our control. There are so many things that will happen to us and for many of them we don´t have control over them but many of them are the result of choices and decisions we make so by taking full responsibility and realizing that if we´ve made another decision things would have come out differently, this creates the belief or mindset that every decision we make has an impact positive or negative.

It´s about changing perspective and how we see all situations in life, we can think about everything that happen to us as a negative outcome, that had a negative impact, we blame everyone else and we play the victim role. This perspective only needs to a negative outcome and a negative life.

If we think about it as things happen for a reason, what was the choice I made that lead to this outcome? what could I´ve done differently? what can I learn from this? When we stop blaming someone else, when we stop playing the victim and realize that some of our decisions and choices impact the result then we can start thinking of what we can do differently.

When we do this we feel a sense of ownership and empowerment that makes us realize that we are in charge of so many situations that happen to us, we are in control of so many things by making decisions which can completely change the course of the project we´re working on.

Taking full responsibility for everything we do is hard because this means we need to accept our mistakes and this hurts the ego. If we´re not willing to admit our mistakes or that one decision lead us to the wrong path we will spend the rest of our life blaming someone else and being the victim but if we got what it takes to take responsibility and stop blaming everyone else our life will change. As always we need to start small and grow.

Taking responsibility of our actions also helps us create meaningful relationships and when we´re working in team we are more productive and deliver better results. When we work in a team and we´re the leaders we can´t blame a teammate for a mistake or whatever goes wrong, we´ll lose trust and that person will fear us but if we take full responsibility of everything that happens especially when something goes wrong we make our teammates feel safe and protected which leads to productivity because they know that they we all make mistakes and learn from them, they focus on doing their best work and we get the best results possible.

Taking responsibility helps us be accountable for yourself and others, you know that you have power and that the end result depend on you so you are aware of every decision you make, you know that if you say something you will do it which increases self-confidence and also make people trust you, which also is key to building meaningful relationships.

Once we stop blaming others and complaining and we take full responsibility of everything we do we start seeing a change in our life in so many ways, we see all situations in a more positive light and our relationships start to improve, we know that we are in control of our life and that every choice matter.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Mindset

Focus on progress

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How many times have you started a project and you were obsessed with getting every detail perfect? I´ve done this too but, focusing on perfection only creates anxiety and slow our productivity and progress.

From what I´ve seen progress leads to happiness, perfection leads to anxiety. As tony Robbins says, “Progress equals happiness”. Just think about how you feel when you realize you are making progress in a project or whatever you are doing? You feel accomplished, your self-confidence increases, and you feel happy.

This may be true or false for you but in most cases, perfection get us stuck in some little detail and stop our results while progress let us keep going and improving along the way.

When we focus on progress our goal is to make the best, we can with what we got at that time, and this includes time, skills, knowledge, resources, equipment. And you are committed to improving every single day, being better every day, learning something knew or improving skills.

Our ultimate goal is to keep learning, keep growing and keep improving, the moment we stop making progress we start losing that feeling of achievement and if we let this feeling run our days and life for a long period of time it can lead to mental problems.

When you focus on perfection and if you get obsessed with it you can develop a negative mindset, wanting perfection on every single detail on everything you do is really hard to achieve, more often than you not you won´t be satisfied with the results, it will take you a long time, hard work and effort until you feel are satisfied and think the result is perfect. If you are not satisfied with the result you can get to a point where you don´t feel worthy or capable which leads to a negative and limiting mindset.

Progress on the other hand focuses on doing the best you can with what you know and what you have at that moment knowing that you can always improve, knowing that you can get better every single day by learning new skills or improving the ones you already know and also by getting more or better equipment or tools when you can. It´s about making sure you did your best and you give your all and feeling satisfied with your result. Realizing it was the best you could do but, tomorrow you can do better.

Some steps you can take today to start focusing on progress and stop chasing perfection are:

1.- Realize and accept that chasing perfection is almost impossible, you won´t feel satisfied and it will leave you feeling bad

2.- Think about doing the best you can with what you have

3.- Always keep in mind that you can improve every single day, learn new skills or improve the ones you already know

4.- Take does new or improved skills and apply them to help you get better results every day

5.- Focus on how you feel when you see you are making progress.

When you are aware of your feelings, your emotions is easier to make a change, most of us do not want to feel bad about ourselves, we want to feel uplifting emotions and happiness is one of them, the feeling of accomplishment is another one that makes us feel worthy and capable, when you focus on progress and see it make sure that you are aware of your feelings and enjoy them, this keeps you in the right track wanting more so you stay on that progress search.

Let me know by leaving a comment on Facebook and Twitter if you tend to focus on perfection over progress and what has been your result.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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How pressure can turn into stress

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We know that stress is bad and chronic stress can make us sick because our body shots down systems on our body like the immune system to keep us prepared for the dangerous situation we´re in.

In other post we talk about pressure, (click here to read the post) and it comes from a situation where we are challenged to meet the demands, we only have one shot at a certain project and the outcome depends of us, we have control over it and we know we need to get certain results, the best ones. Even when pressure can lead to great results and exceed expectations for some people it can lead to stress.

Pressure can lead to stress when we get assigned a project where we´re not sure if we can make it, we´re unsure if we can meet the deadline and exceed expectations. If it´s a project we don´t feel comfortable because we lack knowledge and skills and if on top of that we are not interested on the project, then this is when pressure becomes stress.

Another way that pressure can lead to stress is when you have so many things to do and you don´t know where to begin, some of us find it hard to say no so we end up accepting a lot more projects and work that we can deal with, we only increase the workload because we cannot say no.

How we respond to any situation has an impact on our levels of stress, pressure comes from the outside, it can be from our boss by giving us more work or a project but our perspective and attitude is what determines how much we get stressed. If we doubt ourselves and our abilities and skills then we will start questioning ourselves and getting anxious thinking we won´t meet the deadline or the results.

We can all cope with some pressure and it can lead to amazing results, maybe we can use that opportunity as a way to prove ourselves and others that we are capable of but, you can get to a point where pressure is just too much and you start getting all the negative effects that lead to stress, you know when it´s too much when the quality of your work starts to lower, when you feel unsatisfied and lack motivation, if you continue when you get to this level you are at risk of burning out. Most of us cannot deal with pressure when it´s too much, some of us get anxious or depressed, others get aggressive, others prefer to isolate and find ways to deal with it alone but all of them lead to stress.

What you can do is first of all know yourself and accept how much work you can deal with, then learn to say know. If you get offered a project that you know is going to come with some level of pressure and you are not sure about getting it done, then maybe it´s better to say no. It´s really important that you know and accept how much is too much for you and what´s the best way to say no on each situation.

One way or strategy that can help you reduce stress caused by pressure is to be organized, organize your time and activities, create a “to do list” and a “not to do list” and make sure to consider your priorities. Both lists are important, one helps you do the activities that are high priority while the other make sure that you don´t waste your time doing things or activities that doesn´t lead to a positive outcome. You can also find out what the bests time to work for you, some of us like to do the hardest activities or high priorities in the morning while others prefer to do them in the afternoon. We´re all different so find out what works best for you.

Another point you can consider is to set 2 or 3 hours each day to work on you to do list and concentrate on one activity at a time, when you concentrate and are completely focus on one single activity for 2 or 3 hours in a row, without distractions that´s wen you are able to get the best results, you finish the task faster.

These are some ways you cam make sure that you use pressure to your advantage and that it doesn´t turn into stress. If you´ve been struggling with pressure or stress leave your comments and questions on our Facebook and Twitter account, we´ll be glad to help.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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The power of perspective

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There are different perspectives from which we can view life, and those perspectives are different for each of us, you and I won´t see life the same way, we won´t have the same perspective but our perspective is what makes the difference on whether we get a positive or a negative outcome.

How we perceive life is a result of our values, believes, and all the experiences we´ve been through, if we´re surrounded by people who has a very negative perspective of life in general we will get use to seeing every situation from a very negative perspective, the bad things of everything that happen and we will block all positive outcomes.

We´re all going through hard times right now, it doesn´t matter where country you live in, most of us need to stay home to fight this virus and just the idea of staying home and isolation creates negativity for some people. If we see all this situation from a negative perspective, we´re only making it harder on ourselves. We think about all the people infected, the people who didn´t make it, all the people who has lost their jobs, the economy, etc.

It´s easier to focus on negativity and think about all the possible negative outcomes this is what help us survive and that´s the job of our brain, to keep us alive but, in most cases we our brain start creating negative scenarios and we stop seeing reality, we stop seeing what really is happening.

It´s in times like this one that we need to change the perspective, see the situation from another angle, find all the positive points and remain optimistic. There´s always a positive outcome, something good comes from all challenges and the harder the challenge the greater the outcome. But if we want a positive outcome, we need to have the right perspective. When we see any situation from a negative angle we close and block our mind to find solutions, instead we see it as challenges and problems without solutions.

When you see every situation from a negative perspective you block your mind from finding solutions so you get stuck and the results will be negative, the chances of all the negative results that your mind created becoming a reality increases.

If you train your mind to see every situation from a positive perspective, being more optimistic or at least at the beginning making the effort of seeing the situation from another angle, understanding and being open to others´ points of views your setting yourself to a positive result. You are being opened and this gives your mind the job to focus on finding solutions.

With this comes respect, knowing that we all see the world, life and all situations from a different perspective we need to respect each other’s point of view, try to understand them and even learn from them.

Our perspective is how we see our life, our own version of the life we´re living or the situation we´re living but that version can have an impact on our future. Our perspective, our values and beliefs, our thoughts, and our behaviors are ultimately what create our life, if we don´t like the life we´re living then we need to make some changes and one of those changes include being open to different ideas and find different solutions, learning from every situation and becoming a little better every day.

This is up to you, you can train your mind to be more optimistic by finding the positive and really believing that everything will turn out ok or you can stay closed to negative thoughts that just keep you stuck.

Let me know by leaving a comment on my Facebook and Twitter account if you have think about the impact that your perspective have on your life.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Mindset

Why you need to create urgency

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Does having a sense of urgency makes you feel anxious and increase stress or does it help you get things done?

For some of us the sense of urgency can lead to stress and we tend to avoid it as much as possible but if we create and maintain a sense of urgency it helps us get things done and in most cases the end result is great.

With so many distractions nowadays, we can all have great ideas but the one thing that separate successful people is their sense of action, getting things done quickly and with amazing results. In times where we can literally achieve any goal because we have access too so much information and technology what will set us apart is how able we are to take action on our ideas and goals. It´s all about high performance and high productivity.

Urgency helps us finish projects and achieve great results because it increases our ability to concentrate and what we´re doing, when we are able to concentrate on our project and we focus all our energy and attention on it we for a certain period of time we get to a state called “flow”, when we´re in this state is like being on a magical place where everything seems to work more easily, ideas come more easily to us, we feel more energetic and  positive and all this improves our productivity and performance which leads to great results in shorter periods of time.

The way to achieve this sense of urgency and be able to get into the “flow” state is by having an inner desire of getting a project or activity get done fast as best as possible. You may get obsessed with the result or the end goal that you want to get there as fast as possible so you take action and keep working for as long as you need until you get the job done. The more time you spend working on that activity or project the more you get into that “flow” state that makes it really hard to take your attention away from it and ideas keep flowing, productivity and performance keep increasing.

For some of us creating urgency and achieving this state is so hard because we need to go through a series of steps especially if we´re working on a goal or project in which we need to learn new skill s to get the job done. In these cases there are some steps we need to go through to learn those new skills that will make the journey boring, tedious and some times stressful, it´s in this steps that most people give up but it´s a crucial step that we need to go through if we want to get to that “flow” state. In the “flow” state we already have the knowledge and skills needed for the project or activity and it´s about applying those skills and knowledge in creative ways.

Creating a sense of urgency is wanting to finish an activity, a project or goal as fast as possible with the best results possible, for this we require some motivation this motivation may be wanting to see the end result, achieving a huge goal that really moves us and being able to see the activity, project or goal finished.

Developing the habit of taking action and consistency are key to get to the “flow” state and also develop insane concentration, if you get distracted easily you´ll never be able to get to this state and this is also why it is so hard for some of us to achieve it. Most of us are not able to maintain insane concentration for long periods of time and it gets worse if we need to learn new skills making it harder to maintain concentration because the process of learning is boring, tedious and stressful.

I need to mention that it´s easier to get into this “flow” state when you love the activity or project you´re working on, if you want to get to this state doing something you don´t like it can lead to stress.

The best step you can take to improve and develop insane concentration, consistency and being able to get to that “flow” state is to take action, turn off your cell phone or at least turn off all notifications and close all social media on your computer, laptop or the device you´re working on. Choose and activity or project you´ve been leaving for later and start working on it, do not let anything distract you from what you´re doing. If you need to learn new skills then focus on that one activity for 50 minutes straight, without distractions and then take 10 minutes rest.

Do this exercise consistently for one week and let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account if you saw any improvements in your ability to work on one activity for longer without distraction and if your performance and productivity increased.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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What you let enter your mind defines your future

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You may have heard someone said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend more time with, this is a famous quote from Jim Rohn, and it´s so true. You are the result of everything you let enter your mind and body.

Are you aware of what you let enter your mind? From the books of news you read, to what you hear and what you see all that information that gets into your mind has an impact on your future especially if you believe everything you read, hear and see.

We need to be really aware of what we let get into our mind and body because everything is energy and while some people can take our energy down and bring us to a sustained  negative energy so you keep attracting more negative situations, what we let enter our mind over and over will become part of our experience, the life we´re living right now is the result of our thoughts, emotions and most of the time they are influenced by what´s happening around us.

We´re surrounded by too much negativity nowadays, from negative news 24/7 to negative people that spend most of their time complaining and blaming everyone else about their poor life. If we live like this every day and we let all this negativity get into our mind, then we will continue living a negative life. We are so used to living like this that it has become normal, most of us spend most of our time complaining about certain situations and blaming someone else, we watch news to keep feeding our mind with negativity and then we complaining about the negative situations that happen to us.

The people around us play a huge role here whether they´re our classmates, coworkers, neighbors they can influence us, and they can be one of the causes of the negative and poor life we´re living. I know for some of us it may be hard to change the people around us, we may not change school or job or move to another place but we can reduce the time we spend with them and we can also block their negativity from getting inside our mind and affect our life. In this case we need to learn how to deal with this type of people and also not letting what´s happening around us gets inside our mind, our believes. We can´t let outside circumstances and people affect our beliefs, choices and actions.

It´s all about perspective and what you choose to focus on, we´re born being positive and optimistic but as we grow older we get very negative thanks to all the situations we live and the people around us, most of us live in a society that is really pessimistic and negative and that become part of ourselves and our life but we can train our mind to be more positive and optimistic.

Now we need to talk about food, everything you eat has an impact on your body inside and outside, if you eat healthy foods it´s easier for you to maintain a great mood and be more positive, if you eat unhealthy foods it´s harder to be positive and your mood will be very bad. What you eat also affects how you look, from your hair, nails, skin so make sure that you eat healthy meals to make it easier for you to look young and lean and also feel great.

If you want to change this and start living a much better life you can start right now, it only takes a decision and commitment, decide and commit that you want to live a more positive life and with this comes the action plan. Here are some steps you can start following today:

1.- Train your mind to see the positive in every situation and every person, if someone keeps being negative try to avoid them,

2.- Read books or listen to audiobooks or podcast that help you grow and learn something new every day, for this you need to reduce time watching negative news and reduce time on social media,

3.- Eat healthy foods including healthy fats, fiber, proteins and keep healthy carbohydrates low.

This 3 steps seem so simple and logic, you may have listen or read about them before but it´s hard to do it, you need to be aware and conscious about being positive and you may need to force yourself to read that first book but with time it becomes a part of you and you´ll be amazed at how your life changes.

Give these 3 steps a try for a couple of weeks and let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account which step you found easier to follow and which one was harder for you and also why you think it was hard.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Mindset

Control your mind and you can control your life

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How many times have you given up on your goals or dreams because of your thoughts?

We have a huge potential and we can achieve amazing things in life but the number one reason why we give up or don´t even take the first step is because of our thoughts.

Since we´re born we´re programmed a certain way, this programs go according to our environment and society, our family, friends, teachers, school, neighbors everyone around us will affect our mindset and the life we´re living today is the result of those programs that were installed in our brain so if we want to change something in our life we need to change our thoughts. The reason for this is because everything we experience in real life was first created in our mind.

Our mind is always busy, it´s always thinking repetitive thoughts which most of them are negative based on our old programs, it makes decisions and choices also based on those old programs and almost everything we do is based on that old programming so we keep living the same way year after year.

Our mind can send us all type of excuses and reasons why we can´t do something but all these excuses come from fear and if we let all those excuses control us, we´ll never achieve our goals. We need to be mentally strong and be able to control our mind, every time an excuse appears in our thoughts we need to know that those negative thoughts are not real they are created by our brain to keep us away from the pain and struggle but it´s that pain, that struggle, it´s facing that challenge what will help us learn, grow, improve and get better, we need to be strong enough to control our thoughts.

When we are able to control our thoughts we are able to control our life and we can achieve almost everything we want, controlling our thoughts not only help us attract what we really want but we make better choices which keep us on the right track and get us closer to our goals. When I talk about controlling our mind what I mean is to be aware of our thoughts and every time and excuse or a reason why we can´t do something comes to mind find a way to take action right away before those thoughts paralyze us, every time a negative thought comes to mind making any situation worse be aware of that thought and find a positive outcome for that situation.

Self-discipline is key when we want to control our mind, we need to do what we need to do even when we don´t want to, if we are self-disciplined we will take action and when we take action over and over and over we develop new habits, the habits we need to get to where we want or to live the life we want and when those habits are developed it´s so easy to follow through.

It´s not about fighting our thoughts because most of the time we´ll lose against our mind, it´s about being aware of our thoughts and not giving any importance to the negative ones while increasing our positive thoughts, find reasons why we are capable to achieve our goals and live the way we dream, it´s about having a clear goal, knowing our values and making the right choice every time based on those values and according to our goal.

It´s about taking action even when our mind tells us how tired we are, it´s about making the right choice for our ultimate goal always thinking on the long game even when our mind tells us how bad we “need” a cheat meal in this moment. It´s all about having a strong will power, it´s about being present and not letting our mind fools us.

We live most of our life being control by our mind, this is why we can´t achieve our goals, if you´ve tried to lose weight and for some reason you can´t stick to your diet or get up and exercise your mind may be controlling you, this happens with any goal.

Being able to control our mind is the hardest steps to take when we want to change our life but is the one that will give us the best results in a short period of time, since our brain and mind are the ones taking control of our life it won´t be easy to take that control and power back, one way to do it is by being present, living in the now and concentrating on the activity at hand, concentrate on working on just one activity at a time and really focus on it, with time you´ll see that your mind wanders a lot less. Just by taking action even when our mind is sending all excuses, we´re taking control so stop thinking about what you need to do and deciding whether you want to do it or not just get up and do it.

Have you stop for a while and think about where all those negative thoughts come from? or why is it so hard to act? Let us know by leaving a comment on our Twitter and Facebook account.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Relationships matter

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Have you asked yourself the impact that the people around you have in your life? How does your closest friends, family, classmates, teachers, coworkers, boss impact your decisions and shape your life?

You may have listened that we are the result of the 5 people we spend most of our time with and whether you belief it or not it´s true. We all want to fit in and for most of us it´s really hard to stay true to who we are, to our values and believes so we let the people around us shape our decisions, we behave  and follow what they do so that we´re accepted but if we´re not surrounded by the right people this will have a negative impact on our life.

Our closest friends and people around us can dictate our health, finances, relationships, our lifestyle can be dictated by the people around us if we let them just because we want to fit in so most of our choices are based on the people around us.

We can all achieve amazing things in life and live a happy, successful and fulfilled life but the people we spend time with, our relationships will determine or at least have a huge impact on whether we live the amazing life we deserve or not and the reason for this is mindset, routines and lifestyle.

As we go through life we go through highly stressful, painful, though situations this happens to all of us there´s no way to avoid them and in this moments our relationships can help us go through those difficult times or they can break us more. We need real strong relationships that we can trust and lean on when we need to, and we also need to be there for others when they need us more.

When we talk about a successful life we will only get as high as the people around us, if we spend most of our time surrounded with mediocre or average people we will stay in that level and the principle reasons for this is that we´re not surrounded by people who want to get to higher levels, we´re not surrounded by people who have a mindset of improvement, progress, getting better, keep learning and there´s nothing we can learn from them that can take us to the next level. When we´re surrounded by average and mediocre people and we share with them our idea of success, of living a better life and looking for a fulfilled life they may support us in the beginning but once we start getting results they will try to bring us down.

It´s so hard to reach new levels if we´re not surrounded with the right people, true friends that you can count on, the ones who have been there in those hardest moments and also the ones we may have some disagreements but there´s respect, acceptance, loyalty who have the same values and principles that can create an amazing relationship that includes healthy competition where we challenge each other to improve, to progress, to make our best and create great things.

We need to consider that we all have different values and beliefs, we´re all interested in different things so to make sure that we develop great relationships we need to make sure that the people we want to be around with are those who have the same values and beliefs and that we have something in common, this doesn´t mean that we need to agree in everything and we won´t, what this means is that we enjoy or like the same things and that even when we disagree there´s a level of respect. We know there´s something we can learn from them every day and we´re challenging each other to improve and progress on our own goals and projects, we don´t need to have the same goals but we can still help and support each other to become the best version of ourselves and to keep getting to higher levels.

I need to mention that from the people close to us, our closest relationships we may find someone who is at higher levels than us, they will help us get to those higher levels and continue succeeding, they are the ones we can learn from, there are some who are at our level this may be the ones we spend more time with because we feel comfortable, we´re going through the same kind of lifestyle the problem of spending too much time with them is that we stay in the same level and there are the ones who are below us and this can be dangerous for us because if those people don´t want to succeed they will try to pull us down which is the dangerous part so we need to avoid them but if they want to improve their lives and get to a higher levels then we need to help them so that they can learn from us, improve, get better and succeed.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Take massive action

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It doesn´t matter how much we work on visualization, how focus we stay throughout the day to maintain high concentration on our goals, if we do not act. We won´t get anything without action.

Every success people you meet or your biggest influence or hero they´ve all worked as hard as possible and took massive action to be where they are now. There´s no other way to do it, if you want to achieve your goals and live your dreamed life you need to take massive action.

For any goal we set we can have an idea of how much work and effort it will take us to achieve our goal, once we got this, we just need to work 10 times harder. As we start working on our goal, we realize that it will take a lot more work and effort to get to where we want and if we give up just by realizing this then we´ll fail in every project.

Nothing will come just by sitting on the couch and visualizing ourselves achieving our goal, it just won´t fall on our lap. Even when tools like visualization help us stay focused on our goal, we need to act. What can we do every single day that will take us closer to our goal?

When we´re not used to taking massive action or we don´t have the time we need to start small, whether you believe it or not small daily actions lead to big results. I know it is not possible for all of us to concentrate completely on our goal and work as hard as possible on it every day, if we have a 9 to 5 job or we´re on school we need to find small activities we can do first thing in the morning or at night before going to bed and develop the discipline needed to do that activity every day. Once we have the discipline, we take that activity and do it for longer periods of time or do an activity that demands more.

We also need to make sure that we´re making that activity as best as possible, we need to be efficient, effective, focus on doing our best, when we are able to concentrate on what we´re doing we can deliver and amazing performance that leads to great productivity.

The problem nowadays with so many distractions is that we are busy, it´s not the same to be busy than to be productive, we want to be productive so that we can deliver our bests results. When insane concentration, great performance, productivity and massive action come together we can achieve incredible results in what can be considered a small period of time.

Taking massive action means working on something, doing some activity that will takes us closer to our goal, actually doing as many activities as possible and working on our goal as hard as we can, for this we need to stop being busy which is what many of us do most of the time and concentrate on being productive. For this we need to be able to develop insane concentration on the task at hand, we can´t let anything distract us which is difficult because we live in a world full of distractions. To learn how to develop insane concentration click here.

We need to consider that when we start taking action we won´t get the results in the first or second try, we need to keep working and be aware that it will take a lot of us, a lot of effort, a lot of time, a lot of work, a lot more than we first thought and if we really want to succeed we need to keep putting that hard work in.

If we are clear on what we want, if we develop insane concentration on our goal and we take massive action we can achieve whatever we want, but not all of us are willing to pay this high price. If we want to succeed, there´s a price we need to pay therefore not everyone is successful, and therefore some successful people do not maintain their success. Once we succeed, we need to maintain that level of clarity and ambition for our goals, we need to maintain that insane concentration and keep taking massive action but we also need to take some time to recover, otherwise we will burn out.

When we take massive action, and we are certain that we gave our all, we worked so hard on our project or goal for as long as we needed we deserve and need some rest to recover and get back stronger but if we take too much time we lose momentum.

You can start today by setting a clear goal you want to achieve, once you have it you need to work backwards and make a plan with all the activities you need to do that are going to take you to your goal, from those activities choose one or two you can do every single day and take action.

Let us know by leaving a comment in our Twitter and Facebook account how easy or hard it is for you to take action towards your goal.

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How to deal with criticism

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Have you ever been criticized? I bet you´ve been, we´ve all been criticized by how we look, the clothes we wear, what we do or don´t do, our job, how we spend our money and time, etc. We´ve always been criticized and people will continue doing it, so I rather work for living the life I dream and be criticized for being so ambitious and obsessive than for being mediocre.

We´re living in an era where if we do things differently we´re wrong, we need to follow rules if we want to fit in and even when we go with the flow we still get criticized by someone who wants to see us fail.

There are 2 types of criticism, constructive and destructive even when constructive criticism helps us grow and improve it hurts when someone tell us the truth, it´s hard to accept the opinion of someone else and take an honest look at ourselves or our work but there lies the seed of creativity and grow if we´re opened to new ideas our mind starts thinking and analyzing to find ways to improve.

Destructive criticism almost always come from people who want to see us fail, we all know when someone is criticizing everything we do and say just to leave a bad impression of us with others, to ruin our work whether it´s at school or job, to put someone against us, the intention is to create some harm and it can risk our job or reputation but the greatest impact is on self-esteem. A lot of people enjoy making fun of others and putting people down but in most cases when someone criticize us to make us feel bad it only reflects their insecurities, that says a lot of the other person.

When we´re being criticize what we can do is stay calm, if we start arguing we´re giving power to the other person, by remaining calm we lower that power, we also need to know and realize that they can´t make us feel bad, our mood and emotions depend of us, they are internal and nothing outside can affect that. We can also thank them, when they say something against us with the goal of hurting us, we can just say “thanks”, “thanks for your comment”, “thanks for bringing that on”.

When we´re working on our goal, if we are ambitious, obsessive and take massive action people will criticize, this is normal and we need to accept it, actually it´s a good signal that we´re on the right track if we´re not criticized it means that we´re not thinking big enough and probably we will stay in the same mediocre place we are right now so let those critiques count.

If we believe in ourselves and in our project there´s nothing that can stop us, we may fall ad get up, we will face many challenges but we got everything we need and when someone criticize what we´re doing we need to first think if it´s constructive or destructive, if they´re telling us something that can help us improve or if they´re doing it to harm our results and hurt us.

If there´s something we can learn then we take the lesson and continue, if it´s not then we just move on. We can´t take everything personal because if we do everything negative that people say about us will affect us, criticism help us gain strength by knowing that we will always face both types but how it affects us depends of us.

There´s an important action we can take today and it´s stop criticizing with the intention to hurt, we´ve all done it more than once so if we plan to do it with the intention to hurt someone´s reputation or someone´s feelings then avoid it. If we´re doing it with the intention to help our friend, we just need to be careful of how we say it. Words have an incredible power, they can hurt or they can help, we can lift someone just by what we say so instead of criticizing we will do much better if we try to understand the other person´s situation and point of view.

If you always receive criticism then what you can do is figure out if that criticism can help you improve and grow, if you can learn from it then take it and use it to improve your work or grow as a person if there´s nothing useful then ignore it. Do not take things too personal and remember that when someone is criticizing you or your work it´s more a reflect about that person than it is about you or what you´re doing.

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Pam