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Gain clarity to achieve your goals!

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Being really clear of what we want in life is the first and most important step to success.

Do you know exactly what you want in life? are you clear of what you want to achieve?

Clarity is the only way to get what we want; how can we get or achieve something if we´re not sure of exactly what we want?

Apart that most of us are looking for instant results thanks to instant gratification and that we´re lazy because our brain wants to stay comfortable we always make everything harder than it actually is but not having clarity of what we want is also the reason why we stay in the same place. How can we know what we need to do if we don´t know where we´re going?

Most of us just go with the flow, with what life puts in our way but we all have a purpose and we if don´t work to fulfill that purpose we will work for someone else’s purpose or dream and at the end we´ll regret.

It´s frustrating how many of us dream about living life a certain way but still we have a vague idea. What would you do if I tell you that you can live the life you dream if you are clear on what you want in all areas, from your relationships, finance, job?

Being clear means being able to create an image on your mind of how you want your life to be or how would you look and feel once you´ve achieved your goal, that image needs to include as much detail as possible, the more detail you are, the more clear you are the easier it is for your mind and brain to figure out ways to get you there and the easier it is to work and act on it.

The steps we can follow to gain clarity are:

1. Know yourself,

2. Define your values,

3. Know what you stand for, what moves you,

4. Know your purpose

This 4 steps seem so vague but we need to know and understand ourselves, we need to go deep inside us the more we understand our thoughts, feelings, emotions, what´s important for us, what moves us, what makes us emotional in such a way that we take action and keep momentum.

When we know who we are, what we believe, what we want to achieve and what we need to do the only step missing is taking action, when we know exactly what we want and is something that moves us then we´re motivated every single day to take action, sometimes for some of us it´s hard to stop working and take a rest when we´re so inspired and motivated.

Clarity erase all obstacles physically and mentally we know that there will be challenges but we also know that there´s always at least one way to overcome any challenge, clarity drives focus and concentration, when we know exactly what we want  it´s easier to stay focused on what we´re doing and we can go for long hours of continuous work.

When we lack clarity we don´t know where we´re going and we don´t know what to do, this leads to procrastination, one of the reasons why we don´t take action is because we don´t know exactly what to do, maybe we start working on something and a couple of days or weeks later we change what we´re doing or maybe we just stop working on it, this constant change comes from lack of clarity.

If we want to live our best life possible we need to be clear of what we want on all areas of life which include health, finance, job, family, relationships, etc; the reason why we need to define our values and what we stand for is that our goals in all areas of life can align to those values and this makes our lives a lot more easier, we know what we want, we know what we need to do so we act accordingly.

We need to make choices every single day so if we have a clear goal based on our values, our purpose and what we stand for it´s easier to make the right choices, we just need to choose the option that´s going to keep us moving forward to our goal.

You can start today be making a list of your values, what is important to you, it may be relationships, honesty, respect, write at least 5 values then think about what you stand for and think about a project or goal you would want to achieve based on what you stand for and that aligns to your values. Take as much time as possible to write your values and what you stand for, you need to spend time alone and go deep inside you so don´t get angry or upset if you don´t have this exercise in a couple of hours.

Let us know by leaving a comment on our Twitter and Facebook account how easy or hard it is for you to gain clarity on your goals.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Lifestyle

The power of social media

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Social media is so powerful, but we need to learn how to use to our advantage.

Do you know how much time you spend every day on social media? whether it´s to upload pictures or videos, to share ideas or just going through the feed the amount of time we spend there is huge, on average we spend around 3 hours per day and if we think about what we do in most cases we´re only wasting valuable time.

We´re growing up in a world where Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Youtube and all social media platforms are the way to engage with people all around the world. The problem is that many people don´t share their truths, they hide their reality with filters and they share what they want us to see so when we go through our feed we see all those amazing pictures of people sharing their amazing trips and how much they are loving life but are we really sure that they are enjoying and having an incredible life? this pictures can have a negative effects on us because we may not be working on what we love and in general our life is not that amazing.

Engagement with social media releases a chemical called dopamine which makes us feel good, when we upload a picture and 5 minutes later we check and see thousands of likes we feel good but when we don´t get as many likes as we want we feel bad, we feel like we don´t deserve it and we´re not good enough, we start comparing our pictures and stories with someone else´s who has a lot more followers and likes and we feel bad for ourselves but the problem is that we may not know the truth and stories about the people we´re comparing ourselves to, and we also have our own story.

We´ve become addicted to social media, we want the likes and follows we´ve become addicted to that feeling, it help us cope with stress of life but it can also lead to depression when we compare our content with others.

Some years ago our lives were more focused on what happened around us, our neighbor, our city or country, we use to be a lot more in contact with our closest friends, family, neighbors, classmates and coworkers, now is what happens all around the world and we are more in contact with people in other countries than with the ones close to us.

Even when social media can have a negative impact in our life it also has huge power and if we know how to use them, we can improve our life and help others which is what I love.

It all starts with who we follow, if we follow people who share content that can help us grow, inspire and motivates us then we will start acting and working towards a more successful life. What we share is also important, if we just share pictures or video to add value and to help people all around the world then we´re making a difference in someone else´s lives.

We care more about the numbers on our accounts than on other people, it´s not about getting millions and millions of followers, it´s not about getting millions of likes in our posts, it´s about sharing content that can be valuable for others, it´s about how many people we actually help, it can be just by telling our truth, our story or sharing our knowledge in any specific area.

Social media won´t go anywhere but if we make use of it the right way we can get a lot of benefits and advantages, we need to make sure that we don´t waste our time with it and follow people that are adding value to our life. Just imagine what would happen if from those 3 hours a day we reduce it to 1 hour and we make that 1 hour count and we use the other hour to exercise, we will get in better shape, we will get all the benefits of exercise and we´re learning something from the people we follow.

Remember that an image can say too much, one single image can have a positive impact or negative impact in other´s lives, one post can help someone to improve their life while other can make someone feel unworthy.

Social media is a great tool to help us learn from others and grow and it´s also a tool to help people. What we share, the pictures, images, content, video, etc; it all matters. They can have a positive impact on someone and we can inspire people to improve their lives or maybe just make them smile, but it can also have a negative impact by making someone feel bad so we need to be aware of what we share.

Let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account which type if content you prefer, do you like to follow friends and family to see what they´re doing? Or do you like to follow celebrities to have an inside of their lives, or do you like to follow people or accounts from where you can learn?

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Mindset

The power of fear

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Fear is normal, we all feel fear on certain situations but how we respond to it and how we use it makes a huge difference, it can be the fuel to take action and keep moving forward or it can lead to failure.

We´ve all felt fear but how do you react to it? Do you try to avoid it every time or you get up and act even when that fear is so big?

Now, there´s something I want to make clear, not all fear is bad we need fear as a survival mechanism, there´ll be some situations where we need to think twice about taking action and it can even help us prevent accidents, it keeps us safe. The type of fear we´ll be talking about in this post is the one that prevents us from acting towards our goal. The one that keeps us stuck in our current job because we´re afraid of accepting other opportunities, the one that keeps us struggling with our finances and stops us from taking action to start a business.

Fear is the number one reason we don´t achieve our goals, the fear of being rejected, fear of failing, fear of winning and losing everything, fear of uncertainty, etc: If we can just get pass that fear, if we could only feel the fear and take that first step towards our goal things will be completely different.

Fear is not real, it´s created in our mind and it also creates negative emotions and those negative emotions combined with the thoughts of fear paralyze us, they are the reason why we don´t get up and work and they are also the reason why we´re stuck in the same place living the same way year after year. Fear comes from the unknown when we´re not sure about the outcome or result we start to worry, and those thoughts are the ones that create fear and those thoughts create negative emotions related to fear.

Everything we want, our ultimate goal is on the other side of fear this is why we need to face our fears otherwise we will never achieve our goal, every time we face a challenge it may be a new project, or a obstacle on our way to our goals we need to face that fear and instead of letting our mind come up with negative thoughts that result in fear lets think about it as excitement and our body getting ready to face the challenge.

How we see each situation and how we react makes the difference, fear is so powerful, if we let it, it will control us which is what happens to most of us so, instead we need to control it and make the most out of it, if we can take that power and transform it into excitement and motivation we´re able to do and achieve everything we want.

Most of us let fear control us, we accept all the excuses our mind send us and believe them and if we add to it that we´re lazy then we got the recipe to stay where we are, the recipe for failure.

Fear comes when we face a challenge, but our mind is amazing at creating the worst-case scenarios and it tend to make every situation worse than it is and our fear in any challenge increases thanks to our mid. Every time we face a challenge, we have 2 options we can avoid those challenges and stay where we are, or we can face them.

What we can do is take the time to go deep in our thoughts and find out where our fears come from, are we afraid of not being good enough?, are we afraid of failing?, are we afraid of succeeding and then losing everything? are we afraid of what others will say and think of us?, are we afraid that people make fun of us? All this are the result of insecurities, lack of confidence and lack of courage so we need to start small to increase confidence and courage in ourselves and for this we need to take action, there´s no other way, we need to do that what we fear, we need to face the challenges.

If we start with a big challenge when we don´t have enough confidence and courage we will fail but if we start with small challenges and we remind ourselves that we are good enough, that we are capable and we take action we will feel great right after and that increases our confidence and courage, then we can go for a bigger challenge until we feel comfortable enough to face even bigger challenges.

We all feel fear when we face a challenge the only difference is that successful people take action, they don´t let that fear holds them back, they take control of it and act and unsuccessful people let that fear take control of them, they avoid fear by not taking action and that´s where limiting beliefs also come from.

If we could only feel fear and act anyway our entire lives would look very different. The reason why we need to act is because if fear comes from the unknown, from insecurities and lack of confidence, the moment we act we start learning, experiencing and gaining knowledge and with that, our confidence increases.

What you can do every time you feel fear is stop for a moment and figure out what kind of fear is it, is it fear of failure?, fear of rejection? etc; try to find out where that fear comes from by analyzing your thoughts. Take small action as soon as possible.

Let us know by leaving a comment in our Twitter and Facebook account what challenge you´ve been avoiding, what are your fears, and what action you need to take to get pass that challenge?

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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The information era

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Information is everywhere, from books, magazines, newspapers and, the internet. With so much access to information we can´t take the luxury of not reading and learning, it´s our choice to read and learn about our craft and become the best, otherwise ignorance will be the reason of our failure.

Nowadays not knowing is the wrong answer, we all have access to information and we can read and learn about our interests, not knowing means that there´s something we need to learn, the problem is that with so much information we can get confused and overwhelmed, we´ll find so many different and contradicting information so we need to make a research and find out which sources are trustworthy.

We can´t believe everything we read and hear if we´re really interested on a topic we need to make a research and read everything we can, from books to articles and studies also listen to interviews and podcast of people on the field and then understand and analyze all the information so that we can make a decision for ourselves.

We have a lot more access to information nowadays compared to a couple of years ago but it sometimes seem that the more information we have in our hands the more ignorant we become, have you ever known someone who  talks a lot about every topic and it´s clear that they don´t have an idea of what they´re really saying? I bet you have.

With so much information out there we have a challenge and that´s to make good use of it, information is power and knowing how to use that information gives us more power, with more information and knowledge if we know how to analyze that information and understand it we can make better choices which lead to better relationships, better job and better life.

Nowadays we can say that we´re bombarded with information and this information also comes from social media, the problem is that not all that information is true, there are so many lies and myths and if we don´t check sources and are not aware of what´s getting inside our mind we can feed our brain with the wrong information.

There´s so much noise and all that noise is the one that makes us waste a lot of time this is why it´s important to be aware of who we follow on our social media and also what we share, if we want to be relevant and get noticed in all that noise we need to share value, to share our story share our truth and make sure that everything we do goes according to our values and beliefs.

In many occasions when I´m researching a new topic at the end of the day I´ve read a lot of publications, studies, reports and I end confused I´m sure this happens to you too. What we need to do is continue reading and researching, go as deep as possible and find out from all that information which one is real and truthful and which ones are lies. We need to stop believing everything we hear from one person and everything we read in one place, if a topic gets our interested we need to go deeper and understand the information, think for ourselves and analyze what we´re reading.

How many people do you know that believe everything they see on Facebook or Twitter? many of them do not check the sources and they believe all the noise which bring a lot of problems.

What we can do is make sure that the accounts or people we follow share truthful information and are authentic, we also need to research as much as possible the topics we are more interested and analyze and understand the information, think for ourselves and get to a conclusion, what makes more sense based on everything we read?

The more we read and research about a certain topic the more we understand, most of us do not take time every day to read or listen to podcast, there are so many people who believe everything they see on social media which many information there is wrong so we need to develop the habit of reading, we can start by reading topics we´re interested in which also includes novels or stories. Being open to different points of view and not only points of view related to our own makes it possible for us to read different articles and expand our knowledge so we can see the entire aspect or story so that we can think by ourselves and get to our own conclusion. We need to realize that not everything we read is true so we need to find the truth or get as much information as possible from all different points of view so that we can have great knowledge and understanding, we won´t criticize any point of view we just want to learn and find out where those conclusions or points of view come from, the more we read the more we learn.

Let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account which topics related to weight loss are you more interested in? We want to help you achieve your goals in a simple and healthy way.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Be more positive! How you can do it!

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We´ve heard so many times that we need to be more positive, that positivity will improves our life, if we think positively we will attract good stuff but if you´ve been trying this for some time you may be thinking that it actually doesn´t work, being positive doesn´t improve your life. The problem is we can´t be positive in just some situations, we can´t just practice positivity a couple of minutes a day, it needs to be something we practice every single moment of our day, it needs to be a lifestyle.

Positivity doesn´t mean being positive every now and then we need to practice it every day until it becomes part of us.

Positivity has many benefits for our life and health like being more productive, reducing stress, improves relationships, helps us increase confidence, increase our chances of success, when we practice positivity on a daily basis we live more happier and we enjoy more every moment.

Everything is energy including our thoughts and emotions this is why when something bad happens to us, we keep thinking about that situation and we feel anxious, angry, frustrated and more negative situations keep happening to us, we just keep attracting negativity to our lives.

When something great happens to us we feel excited and we´re happy and more positive things happen, we keep attracting positive situations to our lives.

When we´re born we´re full of positivity we don´t have any worries, stress, anger but as we grow older life gets in the way and this means that we get bombarded with negative information from the news, to Tv shows, we compare ourselves with pictures and posts full of filters on social media, we get stressed out by the rules of society and trying to fit in, we may be bullied or make fun of, etc; all this negative information gets inside of us and we become negative persons we starts thinking negatively about ourselves, we spend most of our entire day entertaining negative thoughts and in negative self-talk and this is how we live. Surrounded by negativity all around us and being negative inside.

Negativity carries a very low vibration or frequency and positivity carries a high vibration or frequency, the moment we start being positive we raise our vibration or energy and if we are able to maintain this high frequency and vibrations long enough it just take some time until positive situations start happening to us, all of a sudden life starts to be better.

What we need to do is eliminate all the negativity inside of us, we need to realize that we will be bombarded with negativity every single day, but we can´t let that negativity get inside of us. To do this we need to practice positivity but not just once or twice a day, we need to do it every single moment of our day and every single day until it becomes part of us. If we practice positive thinking in the morning when we wake up or before going to bed it´s so little that it won´t help us get rid of all the negativity inside of us, the only way to get rid of all the negativity inside us that is running our thoughts and life we need to think positive the entire day and make it a lifestyle.   

Here are some steps you can start doing today to add positivity to your life:

1. Practice gratitude.- Gratitude is one of the highest emotions that can change our mood and state quickly, every morning right after you wake up and every night right before you fall asleep think about 3 to 5 things that you are grateful for and try to maintain that gratitude state for the rest of the day.

2. Think of the positive outcome in any situation.- Our brain loves to focus on the negative side of things and it will come with all the negative outcomes. It doesn´t matter what you´re doing today or what situation you are in focus on the positive outcome.

The hardest part of making positivity a lifestyle is that in the beginning it takes conscious effort, we´re so use to watching, hearing and sharing negative information and we let that negativity enter our brain that we need to be aware every single moment of what we let into our life. We need to be conscious and start focusing and finding the positive outcomes and results in all situations, it´s about creating a positive life for yourself and this includes not letting any negativity into your mind and looking for the positive in everything and everyone around you.

It takes time to see results because of all the negativity we need to get rid of, but this is one of the best practices we can do to improve our life.

Positivity not only helps us live a happier life and keeps us healthy, it also improves our brain and our ability to stay focus, get things done and increase our chances of success, the reason why is because positivity opens our mind to more opportunities, when we think that something is possible or we´re thinking on the positive outcomes on any situation we´re giving directions to our brain to find ways in which we can get the results we want contrary to negative thoughts. Positivity makes us more creative and we can find different solutions to get a desired outcome.

Positivity is contagious have you met someone who is positive, happy and is always having fun? we all get amazed by their attitude and positivity that we want to spend more time around them, positivity attracts people to us but we don´t need anyone to be happy, we need to start by having fun alone being positive alone and then we can share that same attitude with the people around us.

Start today, be more positive at everything you do and wherever you are and let us know on our Twitter or Facebook account if you´ve seen any difference in your life.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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What family really means

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For many of us family is everything but what does family really means?

Family doesn´t always mean blood and it does not end there, blood means that we are related, true family goes far beyond blood, it´s about love, appreciation, understanding, care, loyalty.

Some people think that only because we are related by blood or genes that makes us family, sadly this is not the case. We all have at least one “family” member who thinks that because we´re related by blood then we are family, but he/she never shows up, he/she is so busy and never has time for his “family”. In some cases, more often than not those blood related family are the once who cause more pain, the ones who doesn´t show up or the ones holding us back.

In some cases some of them think that only because we are blood related we don´t need to be there for them, that there´s no reason to nurture the relation or spend time together and that we need to give, give and give even when they never show up. Unfortunately, this is not true we all are responsible of making that family relationship strong by sharing moments and knowing each other, it requires time and effort and it most come from both parts.

Family can be those friends with whom we spend more time or those who we can´t see so often but we know we can count on them, the ones who show up in the most difficult moments of our lives just to be with us, to listen and to support us in any way possible.

Family is about accepting each other as we truly are, is about respect, honesty, loyalty, it´s about love and care and it´s not only saying them is proving and showing with our actions that they matter to us and we will be there no matter what.

Some of us have very few close people in our lives but we feel completely safe and comfortable when we are with them we can be who we really are, we can express ourselves without the fear of being judge, we can share our stories and goals without being criticized, we can have amazing times together and share joy and fun they´ll also be there when life put us down. Those few close friends are family and we need to make sure that we keep them close.

We talked in other posts about the importance of relationships and family must be our priority, we all have a small group of people who we know we can count on through thick and thin, in that group may be some blood family members and some close friends. We know that we can trust each of those people of our small group, we all trust each other, and we know they will be there when we need them. It´s better to have a small group of close friends with whom we share a deep meaningful relationship but who will stay together in every situation than to have a bigger group of people we know only to have a good time but who won´t show up when things get tough.

To create or develop a strong relationship with someone takes time and effort from both parts or the people involved, it´s something we need to be nurturing by spending time together and knowing each other.

Relationships matter, who we spend more time with or who we surround ourselves with have a huge impact on our life for positive or negative, so we need to choose wisely. We need to let go of negative people who has a negative impact on our life and nourish relationships with people who has a positive impact, if there´s someone who doesn´t support our goals or worse tries to pull us down we need to stay away from them even if they are close friends or we thought were close friends and even if they are family members and we need to spend more time and nourish relationships that help us grow and become better every day.

Do not let anyone make you think that just because you are blood related you need to keep that person close, if someone is hurting you in any way take them out of your life and surround yourself with people that make you feel great, people who really cares about you and the one who are going to be there for you no matter what.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Thoughts, emotions, actions. Are you aware of them?

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Have you ever asked yourself it your thoughts, emotions and actions are related and what´s the job they play in living the life you want? Everything we do has a reason why, every choice we make, every action goes according to our emotions and thoughts, even if we think we´re being rational. Almost every single time we act according to the beliefs and programs stored in our subconscious. If we take some time to do visualization or affirmations exercises, they won´t be enough because the rest of our day our thoughts, emotions and actions do not go according to our goal. Most part of the day our thoughts, emotions and actions run our life that´s our subconscious.

You may have heard about the Law of Attraction and you may have tried it, did you get results? the problem with it is that it´s not complete, if we really want to attract something to us and live the life we want there are different points that we need to consider and our mindset is just one of them.

In order to attract what we want and improve our life; our thoughts, emotions and actions need to be in harmony, they need to be aligned and work together, the reason for this is simple, with our thoughts, emotions and actions we´re creating and sending frequencies and vibrations, if we think consciously about what we want but our emotions go against it and we´re not taking action towards that thought we´re sending different frequencies or signals. If we think and concentrate consciously on what we want, if our emotions go according to that thought and we take action to get closer to that goal then everything is in harmony.

More than 90% of our thoughts are repeated over and over every day from the moment we wake up until we go to sleep, most of those thoughts are negative about worry, fear, lack, anxiety so when we want to make a change and we start changing our thoughts consciously we can do it for a couple of minutes while we´re meditating, visualizing or doing some other exercise but for the rest of the day we go back to the same negative thoughts, those negative thoughts are beliefs stored in our mind from past experiences so what we need to do is change those negative and limiting thoughts and install positive ones so that those positive thoughts are the ones running through our mind over and over every day.

Apart from those positive thoughts we also need to be aware of our emotions, most of the day we are in a state of hurry, we get angry, anxious, we hate someone and even want revenge or vengeance but this emotions carry very low frequency so we need to change those emotions for positive ones that carry higher vibrations, emotions like gratitude, joy, love and we need to make those emotions the ones that run automatically without the need of being focusing on them.

Once our thoughts and emotions are working together we need to take action towards our goal, thoughts and emotions alone won´t get us what we want, we may live a more positive life but that´s all, we need to take action and for this we need to work backwards from our goal and create a plan of action that we can follow every day and it doesn´t need to be hard, with just one activity that we do every day in a couple of weeks the progress will show.

The hardest part here is that we need to sustain our thoughts and emotions throughout the day, the goal is to live with this positive thoughts and higher emotions but it´s so hard to do since we´ve been living with negative ones and lower frequencies so the moment we start to make a change our brain wants to take us back to a comfortable thought and emotion, the negative thoughts, limiting beliefs and low frequencies that it´s use to and the ones who are stopping us from living our best life, so what we can do is:

1. Right after you wake up take some slow and deep breathes, focus on your breathing,

2. Take a goal you want to achieve and create a vision of you already having achieved it,

3. Feel gratitude, joy and excitement for already achieving your goal and make those emotions as strong as you can,

4. Open your eyes and start your day but try to keep those high emotions for as long as you can for the rest of the day,

5. Do one daily activity that will get you closer to your goal.

The first days it will be hard to this little exercise but with time you will get used to it and you can do it for as long as you want, you can start with 10 minutes and you can increase time, 20 minutes work great. If you are consistent with it, you will start seeing results.

Our goal is to help you improve your life and we all know that if we want to live a fulfilled life, we need to take care of ourselves, this includes our mindset not only physical health. We need to develop the right strong mindset and make sure that what we think, what we feel and what we do are all working together towards the same outcome, otherwise we won´t achieve anything.

What we´re sharing with you may seem like a lot but it´s all about developing the right habits, once you´ve develop the right habits it will be effortless not only to lose weight and get in shape but to live better, all aspects of your life improve, just do the exercises and give it time to develop those new habits.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Are they really your friends?

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Not everyone we meet will stay in our lives forever, not everyone we meet can be called friend.

Some people take more than what they give and we´ll get to a time where we can´t give anymore, some of the people we meet will seem to be good friends they´ll even say to us that we´ll be together no matter what but when something happen they are the first to disappear.

Some people will only take from us everything they can and they won´t give anything and even when it´s good to give there are times where we also need to receive, there will be relationships that are only holding us down or keeping us stuck in that same level or even some that are pulling us down or drowning us.

We all have though moments in our lives where we need someone and those moments are the ones that will show us who our real friends are, the ones who care and are there for us. Real friends will be there when we need them in those tough times even if there´s nothing they can do physically they will show up to listen to us and they will travel the journey with us to build us up. This are the ones we can trust and the ones we can count on.

Sometimes this real friends are the ones we least expect, we´ve been so busy with other relationships giving everything from love, attention, caring and time only to find out that when we need them those were the ones who leave first and the ones we didn´t pay too much attention are the ones who stay there with us and go through all the ups and downs of that difficult situation with us.

Once we find out who really cares, who was there for us even when we haven´t showed up that much in their lives we can´t forget them and we can start building from there a meaningful relationship that will carry on over the years.

There are people in our lives that come and go, that´s normal not everyone we meet will become a friend, we meet them and live amazing moments with them memories full of laughs and great times but in tough times they´re not there for us. We need to accept this and realize that not everyone is willing to give as much as we give or do as much as we do for them, they won´t support us in any way in those difficult times so we need to let them go. The same happens with the ones who are holding us back or who try to pull us back we also need to let them go. 

It´s hard to let go someone to whom you give so much and find out that they won´t do the same for you, one way to avoid this pain is to not get attached to any relationship, this can be hard to if you are the type of person who almost instantly trust everyone.

Building deep meaningful relationships takes time and it can be difficult to find out who is going to be there for us until something bad happens but there are some signs we can consider like who are the ones who showed up only for fun times like parties, dinners, or others type of events where we can have fun but they didn´t show up for some serious stuff. Who only calls us when they need something but when we call them for whatever reason they don´t seem to be so interested? Who doesn´t is willing to give as much as we do, and here we´re talking about spending time together, listening and paying attention?

Real friendship means spending time with people we love and care about, listening, being there in their darkest times, accepting and understanding who they really are, supporting them and we need to show it not say it. Everyone can say it but not everyone will show it, the ones who show up are the ones who matter.

We need to realize that in some cases when things go wrong the first ones to leave are the ones we consider friends and the ones closer to us, this happen with friends and family and the ones that show up are the ones we least expect so even when it´s hard to realize that the ones we trusted more are the first one to leave we need to move on, let them go and focus on those new people who appear in our life.

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Mindset

Those limiting beliefs are holding you back

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It´s incredible how much we can all accomplish in our life, we all have amazing capabilities, abilities, talents to live a happy and fulfilled life, a life we are proud of but it´s also amazing how most of us never get to live to our full potential. And the reason why we don´t accomplish as much as we could is because of limiting beliefs, if you get rid of them your life will be amazing.

Our beliefs start with an idea that is repeated over and over which can come from our family, friends, society, our neighbors, our environment, after repeating that same idea over and over it creates a belief that is kept in our subconscious mind. With negative and painful experiences the belief is created almost automatically as a way for our subconscious to make sure that we remember that event and avoid it at all costs.

When we´re kids almost everything we see and hear we take it as a fact and while we´re growing up we develop most of the beliefs that rule our life nowadays, if someone told us that we´re not good enough, that we don´t deserve to win, that money is hard to get, that we´re obese and we´ll never be lean, etc; if we hear all those negative comments over and over and over we start thinking of them as being real and they become beliefs that are now part of our subconscious.

There´s a big problem with our beliefs and that is that they create our life, if we are having success in life that means that our beliefs are right and positive, but if we´re not living the way we want that means that our beliefs are wrong and negative and they are the root of the problem.

We know that we need to take the right action that lead us to our goals but our habits, actions, beliefs and values need to be in harmony and since most of the time our subconscious mind is guiding us, our actions go towards our beliefs so if we have the wrong beliefs our habits and actions are going to follow those wrong beliefs we have in our mind even when we know consciously that those actions won´t get us closer to our goals.

Our brain is lazy so it will do everything it can to avoid pain and avoid using energy this is why beliefs and habits are important for our brain, they allow it to stay safe and keep energy. Our brain will ignore everything that doesn´t align with our beliefs, this is why when we decide to start something new like a fitness program our mind gets us all the excuses of why we shouldn´t be doing it.

Our thoughts conscious and subconscious create our reality so we may have set our goal and we take action every day but if it´s so hard for us to stay focused and it takes a lot of effort to take action, then some negative thoughts or limiting beliefs in our subconscious are holding us back. In this case our thoughts are controlling our life so what we need to do is take control of our life by taking control of our thoughts, once we are able to control our thoughts we can eliminate or get pass any limiting belief and develop a strong mindset that will lead to success.

Here are some steps you can follow to take control of your mind and start changing or eliminating limiting thoughts:

1. Identify negative or limiting beliefs.- You need to identify the beliefs that are keeping you stuck. For this you need to ask yourselves if that belief is helping me become the person I  want to be and is it helping me live the life I want to live? Is this belief taking me closer to my goal? If the answer to this questions is “no” then we´ve found a belief we need to change.

2. Decide the new beliefs you want.- You need to make sure that the new beliefs you choose help you grow and become the person you need to be to accomplish your goals.

3. Self-aware.- You need to be aware of your thoughts and when a thought or belief that you want to change comes to your mind realize that it was part of your old beliefs and it´s not part of the new ones, accept that in the past that belief was part of your thoughts and beliefs and it guided your decisions and actions but not anymore and, bring to your mind the new belief you want to replace the old belief and the one you´re working on to be part of your life.

4. Repeat the new belief over and over.- Repetition is key, you need to think and remember your new beliefs over and over until they get to the subconscious mind.

Changing beliefs or eliminating limiting beliefs is hard, it requires attention and being present and aware so work on one belief at a time, choose the one that will have a bigger impact, if you want to lose weight and get in shape you can start by taking a walk of 5 to 10 minutes in the morning before you go to work or late night after you come back home, or you can take a 10 minute walk after lunch or dinner or both if you can and say to yourself that you deserve to be lean, you deserve to be in great shape.

Do this tonight before you fall asleep, think of something you are grateful for and feel the emotion of gratitude, once you feel the emotion maintain it while saying to yourself that you deserve to be lean and in great shape. Tomorrow when you wake up feel grateful for the amazing day to come and repeat to yourself that you deserve to be lean and in great shape. As you go through your day remember those phrases and when a negative one comes to mind replace it with a positive one, and start visualizing yourself being lean and in that amazing physique you want.

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Lifestyle

The importance of having great relationships

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Our relationships determine how far we´re going to get, we all need of each other and we all need to know that we have someone we can trust and count on in times of need, unfortunately not all of us got someone to count on. The people we spend more time with have a huge impact on our life, they can help us grow and reach higher levels or they can pull us down making it impossible for us to succeed.

Nowadays building great relationships is not a priority we´re more interested on getting likes on social media. We dive ourselves on our Smartphone trying to escape reality, we don´t give attention to the people beside us but we´re more interested on comparing ourselves with other accounts trying to figure out why we don´t get likes, why we don´t get the attention we want on our accounts and we´re losing what´s more important, creating great relationships with the people close to us.

Don´t get me wrong, I love social media, I love sharing content, meeting people and helping as much people as possible all around the world and this wouldn´t have been possible without social platforms but we all need good meaningful relationships.

There are 2 different types of relationships that we all need to have:

1.- The one you can count on.- We all go through difficult moments in life and we need to have someone we can trust and count on on those moments. We all know that everyone appears on the best times of our life, everyone is at the party having fun but on our darkest times when we need someone to talk to not everyone will be there so we need to know that we have at least one person we can count on on those darkest times.

2.- The mentor.- We need to keep learning so we need to be surrounded by people who knows more than us, people from whom we can learn, they are the ones that will help us reach the next level, once we get to that next level if those people continued learning then they will continue teaching us if not we need to find someone to get higher.

There´s a third type of person we may encounter through our life and that is the disciple:

3.- Your disciple.- This one is hard because most people prefer to stay where they are in a comfortable place but if we find someone who wants to achieve amazing things in life and who is open to learn and who wants us to help them get to their next level we need to help them. The same way someone helped us before now is our time to help someone.

The best that can happen to us is to have this 3 relationships and we can but we need to develop them and we do that by being interested in people, taking some time off our cell phone and have a conversation with the people around us, listening to them and really being interested is what help us build good relationships. We need to know that it takes time, if we want someone to trust us, to believe in us and respect us it takes time the same way it takes time for us to trust someone and to know that we can count on them.

When we find someone who is interested in us, someone who cares and that shows it in everything they do we need to keep that person close to us. If we know someone who has achieved what we want to achieve we need to find ways to be close to that person even if that means working for them for free, what we want is to learn from them as much as possible but, for some of us it may be hard to find the right mentor or maybe we don´t know someone who has done what we want in this case we can look at our greatest inspirations, they may be celebrities like musicians, actors, professional athletes from we whom we can learn. It´s not about coping or modeling them it´s about learning from them and take those lessons and make them our own.

Having people close to us who support our goals can make our journey easier otherwise we´ll need to develop a strong mindset to go through all type of negative comments.

Developing the right relationships takes time and effort it can´t be done through social media or direct or private messages, I don´t think whatsapp help build good relationships and not even phone calls, there´s no better way than getting face to face, it can be going for a walk, having dinner, breakfast or lunch, going for a coffee or even spend 5 minutes before a meeting with your coworker.

When was the last time you had dinner or lunch with a friend close to you or someone who has been there for you in hard times?

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Pam