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Take responsibility of your life

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Is there something about your life that you don´t like? Is there something you would want to change?

For most of us is possible to change what we don´t like about our life, I say most of us because we need to have the right mindset. If there´s something we don´t like about our life we need to realize that we are responsible of it, we are the ones making decisions and choices that lead to where we are now so realizing that we are responsible and that it´s on our hands, it´s on us to continue this way or make the necessary changes.

We need to make a decision and make the commitment to change then take action and be disciplined. It is hard to make changes and it takes time but if we are committed to improve any aspect of our life we will work as hard as we need especially when we start seeing progress.

It all starts by taking responsibility for everything we do that is on our control. There are so many things that will happen to us and for many of them we don´t have control over them but many of them are the result of choices and decisions we make so by taking full responsibility and realizing that if we´ve made another decision things would have come out differently, this creates the belief or mindset that every decision we make has an impact positive or negative.

It´s about changing perspective and how we see all situations in life, we can think about everything that happen to us as a negative outcome, that had a negative impact, we blame everyone else and we play the victim role. This perspective only needs to a negative outcome and a negative life.

If we think about it as things happen for a reason, what was the choice I made that lead to this outcome? what could I´ve done differently? what can I learn from this? When we stop blaming someone else, when we stop playing the victim and realize that some of our decisions and choices impact the result then we can start thinking of what we can do differently.

When we do this we feel a sense of ownership and empowerment that makes us realize that we are in charge of so many situations that happen to us, we are in control of so many things by making decisions which can completely change the course of the project we´re working on.

Taking full responsibility for everything we do is hard because this means we need to accept our mistakes and this hurts the ego. If we´re not willing to admit our mistakes or that one decision lead us to the wrong path we will spend the rest of our life blaming someone else and being the victim but if we got what it takes to take responsibility and stop blaming everyone else our life will change. As always we need to start small and grow.

Taking responsibility of our actions also helps us create meaningful relationships and when we´re working in team we are more productive and deliver better results. When we work in a team and we´re the leaders we can´t blame a teammate for a mistake or whatever goes wrong, we´ll lose trust and that person will fear us but if we take full responsibility of everything that happens especially when something goes wrong we make our teammates feel safe and protected which leads to productivity because they know that they we all make mistakes and learn from them, they focus on doing their best work and we get the best results possible.

Taking responsibility helps us be accountable for yourself and others, you know that you have power and that the end result depend on you so you are aware of every decision you make, you know that if you say something you will do it which increases self-confidence and also make people trust you, which also is key to building meaningful relationships.

Once we stop blaming others and complaining and we take full responsibility of everything we do we start seeing a change in our life in so many ways, we see all situations in a more positive light and our relationships start to improve, we know that we are in control of our life and that every choice matter.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Lifestyle

Live your passion

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How many times have you heard someone say to live your passion? Find your passion and live it. This seems so simple but for most of us it´s really hard and the reason why it´s hard is because this advice is not completely true.

From my experience and what I´ve read in books we don´t need to find our passion we need to find our purpose and work on it. Passion is the result of doing what we love, what makes us happy and fulfilled.

Most of us spend the first part of our life studying in school and then another big part of our life working in something we don´t like. We´re educated to have a 9 to 5 job that we don´t like, that keeps us with chronic stress for different reasons like doing something we don´t like, dealing with coworkers that make fun of us and talk behind our backs, bosses that only think about money and results, we don´t make enough money so we´re worried about paying bills, we spend hours on traffic every week just to get to the office on time and back home again, this type of lifestyle creates chronic stress that lead to health problems.

If we have the opportunity to do what we love we first need to find our purpose, what are we meant to do? I wrote a post to help you find your purpose which you can read by clicking here. Once we find our purpose and we start taking action towards it all of a sudden our life changes, we feel more energized, we´re happy all day long, we´re more positive and we start developing optimism, we feel better, our life improves in all areas.

When we get to this point we feel great because we´re living based on our purpose and we´re passionate about what we do.

One of the reasons why our life changes completely when we work on our purpose is stress lowers and this is a crucial part for health and improving our lives. When we love what we do we wake up every day motivated and inspired to keep working and we go to sleep every night fulfilled knowing we did our best. We no longer have to do work we don´t like, we don´t have to deal with people we don´t feel comfortable, we don´t have to deal with bosses that don´t care about us, we´re more focused on our work and improving which leads to personal growth and it´s easier to challenge ourselves and get out of the comfort zone because we are able to see an end result that motivate us.

We are more positive and optimistic which brings and attracts more positivity to our lives, we are able to enjoy life a lot more and is easy to merge work life with family and relationships which lead to building meaningful relationships which is an important part for being successful.

All this is the end results of a deep inner work, to find your purpose you need to go inside your mind, brain, soul and find who you really are. When you find your purpose you are reconnecting to who you really are, when you start working on that purpose, with time you´ll feel a sense of freedom you realize that there´s no one we need to prove, that we don´t need to fit in, life is way better when we work and do what makes us feel happy and fulfilled.

The hardest part is that we have responsibilities, we need to pay bills so finding ways to work on our purpose and make a living from it can be hard for some of us so what we can do is while we´re at school or job find time to start working on our purpose, this means watching less Tv, or any streaming service or even lose parties and social meetings, find ways to make a living from it and once we´re making a good income then try to scale the business. This is hard to do, it takes a lot of time and work and there so many things that go into creating a business based on your purpose but if you do it right the results are worthy.

Finding our purpose and working on it not only leads to passion for what we do and our lives, it leads to less regrets later in life. So it´s not about living your passion, is about finding our purpose, working on it and as a results we feel passionate for what we´re doing and we love our life.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Stress

How pressure can turn into stress

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We know that stress is bad and chronic stress can make us sick because our body shots down systems on our body like the immune system to keep us prepared for the dangerous situation we´re in.

In other post we talk about pressure, (click here to read the post) and it comes from a situation where we are challenged to meet the demands, we only have one shot at a certain project and the outcome depends of us, we have control over it and we know we need to get certain results, the best ones. Even when pressure can lead to great results and exceed expectations for some people it can lead to stress.

Pressure can lead to stress when we get assigned a project where we´re not sure if we can make it, we´re unsure if we can meet the deadline and exceed expectations. If it´s a project we don´t feel comfortable because we lack knowledge and skills and if on top of that we are not interested on the project, then this is when pressure becomes stress.

Another way that pressure can lead to stress is when you have so many things to do and you don´t know where to begin, some of us find it hard to say no so we end up accepting a lot more projects and work that we can deal with, we only increase the workload because we cannot say no.

How we respond to any situation has an impact on our levels of stress, pressure comes from the outside, it can be from our boss by giving us more work or a project but our perspective and attitude is what determines how much we get stressed. If we doubt ourselves and our abilities and skills then we will start questioning ourselves and getting anxious thinking we won´t meet the deadline or the results.

We can all cope with some pressure and it can lead to amazing results, maybe we can use that opportunity as a way to prove ourselves and others that we are capable of but, you can get to a point where pressure is just too much and you start getting all the negative effects that lead to stress, you know when it´s too much when the quality of your work starts to lower, when you feel unsatisfied and lack motivation, if you continue when you get to this level you are at risk of burning out. Most of us cannot deal with pressure when it´s too much, some of us get anxious or depressed, others get aggressive, others prefer to isolate and find ways to deal with it alone but all of them lead to stress.

What you can do is first of all know yourself and accept how much work you can deal with, then learn to say know. If you get offered a project that you know is going to come with some level of pressure and you are not sure about getting it done, then maybe it´s better to say no. It´s really important that you know and accept how much is too much for you and what´s the best way to say no on each situation.

One way or strategy that can help you reduce stress caused by pressure is to be organized, organize your time and activities, create a “to do list” and a “not to do list” and make sure to consider your priorities. Both lists are important, one helps you do the activities that are high priority while the other make sure that you don´t waste your time doing things or activities that doesn´t lead to a positive outcome. You can also find out what the bests time to work for you, some of us like to do the hardest activities or high priorities in the morning while others prefer to do them in the afternoon. We´re all different so find out what works best for you.

Another point you can consider is to set 2 or 3 hours each day to work on you to do list and concentrate on one activity at a time, when you concentrate and are completely focus on one single activity for 2 or 3 hours in a row, without distractions that´s wen you are able to get the best results, you finish the task faster.

These are some ways you cam make sure that you use pressure to your advantage and that it doesn´t turn into stress. If you´ve been struggling with pressure or stress leave your comments and questions on our Facebook and Twitter account, we´ll be glad to help.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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The power of perspective

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There are different perspectives from which we can view life, and those perspectives are different for each of us, you and I won´t see life the same way, we won´t have the same perspective but our perspective is what makes the difference on whether we get a positive or a negative outcome.

How we perceive life is a result of our values, believes, and all the experiences we´ve been through, if we´re surrounded by people who has a very negative perspective of life in general we will get use to seeing every situation from a very negative perspective, the bad things of everything that happen and we will block all positive outcomes.

We´re all going through hard times right now, it doesn´t matter where country you live in, most of us need to stay home to fight this virus and just the idea of staying home and isolation creates negativity for some people. If we see all this situation from a negative perspective, we´re only making it harder on ourselves. We think about all the people infected, the people who didn´t make it, all the people who has lost their jobs, the economy, etc.

It´s easier to focus on negativity and think about all the possible negative outcomes this is what help us survive and that´s the job of our brain, to keep us alive but, in most cases we our brain start creating negative scenarios and we stop seeing reality, we stop seeing what really is happening.

It´s in times like this one that we need to change the perspective, see the situation from another angle, find all the positive points and remain optimistic. There´s always a positive outcome, something good comes from all challenges and the harder the challenge the greater the outcome. But if we want a positive outcome, we need to have the right perspective. When we see any situation from a negative angle we close and block our mind to find solutions, instead we see it as challenges and problems without solutions.

When you see every situation from a negative perspective you block your mind from finding solutions so you get stuck and the results will be negative, the chances of all the negative results that your mind created becoming a reality increases.

If you train your mind to see every situation from a positive perspective, being more optimistic or at least at the beginning making the effort of seeing the situation from another angle, understanding and being open to others´ points of views your setting yourself to a positive result. You are being opened and this gives your mind the job to focus on finding solutions.

With this comes respect, knowing that we all see the world, life and all situations from a different perspective we need to respect each other’s point of view, try to understand them and even learn from them.

Our perspective is how we see our life, our own version of the life we´re living or the situation we´re living but that version can have an impact on our future. Our perspective, our values and beliefs, our thoughts, and our behaviors are ultimately what create our life, if we don´t like the life we´re living then we need to make some changes and one of those changes include being open to different ideas and find different solutions, learning from every situation and becoming a little better every day.

This is up to you, you can train your mind to be more optimistic by finding the positive and really believing that everything will turn out ok or you can stay closed to negative thoughts that just keep you stuck.

Let me know by leaving a comment on my Facebook and Twitter account if you have think about the impact that your perspective have on your life.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Being clear on our values make our life easier

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Are you one of those who spend a lot of time taking decisions or making choices? once you made your choice you doubt if it was the right one?

Nowadays we have so many distractions and we need to make a lot of decisions on a daily basis, in some cases we don´t think about the impact that our decisions can have on the long run we just want to solve the problem now or we´re looking for instant gratification or fast results. Some of the choices we make daily do not have a huge impact on the long run but some of them do.

Every choice we make takes time and energy but what would happen if we had like a guide we can use to help us make the right decision or the best decision almost every time without spending too much time and energy? that´s where being clear on our values and beliefs come into play.

By being clear on our values, our beliefs and our goals we´re creating a guide that help us make better decisions faster the only thing we need to do every time we need to make a decision or a choice is ask ourselves which choice or which option is goes according to our values and beliefs, which option or choice is going to move us forward to our goal. Is this choice going to take me one step closer to my goal? does this option goes according to my values and beliefs? if the answer is yes then go ahead if the answer is no, we need to think of our values, beliefs and goals and choose the option that goes according to what we belief and value and to our goals.

It takes time to get clear on our values and beliefs, we´ve based almost everything we do in what other people do, we´ve been so worried about what others say and think of us that we´ve lost ourselves so it takes time to find ourselves and realize what we value, what we belief, our priorities but once we got them everything gets easier we just need to be congruent.

By being clear on our values and beliefs and by making choices based on them everything we do represents who we are, when we start living this way we will be authentic which for some of us will be a difficult process, some people will won´t understand what we´re doing and won´t support us, we may lose some friends in the journey but with time being authentic attract to us people who belief what we belief, people who has the same values that we do and people who we have more in common giving us the opportunity to build great relationships.

Nowadays there are so many fake people so finding someone who is authentic is hard but once we do we try to keep that person close, we know they are truthful and they are valuable.

Getting clear on our values and beliefs is the base structure for everything else in our lives, what we stand for, our goals come from those values and beliefs, our goals are the tangible results of what we belief and it´s easier for people to know and understand our goals.

Instead of comparing ourselves to others we should ask ourselves if what we´re doing goes according to what we believe, to our values, to what we stand for, this way we´re not comparing ourselves our results with others we´re making decisions based on our guide and structure to help us achieve a future result. We´re not looking to fit in in any group we want to work and take action based on what we stand for.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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Reduce stress by focusing on what you can control

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We all get stressed, actually must of us live with high levels of chronic stress that have a negative impact on our health but, have you stopped for a moment and think how many times that stress comes from things or situations that are out of our hands? Things we cannot control?

We all want to have a sense of control or at least make possible scenarios of what could possibly happen on a certain situation, for some reason we think that if we have control over every single person and situation then we can avoid bad things to happen or we think that by worrying and thinking about the worst result and think about the negative outcomes we can be prepared and know how to respond or we can be safe.

The truth is that we´ll never have total control over everything that is going on and every person and wanting to have everything under control only increases stress.

Even simple things like what other people think and say of you can increase stress and you don´t have control over that. This example keeps so many of us worried and lead to stress especially if we want to please everyone which I impossible, one of the reasons this increases stress is because we´re hiding who we really are so that we can fit in.

Also simple situations like raining or getting stuck on traffic because of an accident are situations we cannot control, we cannot decide when we want to rain and when not and we do not have control over accidents so what we can do is be prepared or sometimes the best things we can do is remain calm and accept there´s nothing we can do and the worst we see the situation the worst everything we´ll get.

There are some steps we can take to make sure that we do not get stressed with things that are out of our hands, here are those steps:

1.- Identify what you can control and what you cannot

2.- Accept that there are some things that are out of your hand and there´s nothing you can do

3.- Identify the real reason why certain things or situations keep you worried, sometimes our mind creates different negative scenarios or results which are not true

4.- Focus on the things you can control, make sure that you don´t waste mental energy and time on the situations and people you cannot control and focus all that energy and time on the things you do have control.

When we focus on the things we can control we usually get great results and we also stop our mind from creating negative scenarios. Since we can only focus on one activity at a time and hold one thought at a time we only need to focus all our attention and concentrate completely on the activity we can control to reduce stress and make sure that we get the best outcome possible.

If you´re going to be in a situation where you know there are some things you cannot control try to have a plan that helps you respond the best way possible, especially if you tend to focus on the stuff you cannot control, have a plan or strategy that helps you stay focus on the things you can control.

Also when you accept that there will always be things out of your hands you can concentrate on working as hard as you can and giving your best, knowing that you did everything you can on what you can control makes you feel satisfied with the result and stop blaming yourself for something that didn´t end as planned especially if that something was out your hands.

We all tend to live with high levels of chronic stress so finding ways and strategies we can reduce help us improve our health and our life. One way to reduce stress by being aware of things we cannot control, that are out of our hands, accepting that there´s nothing we can do and stop focusing on them, instead focus and work on the ones we do have control and make sure we do our best.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

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What you let enter your mind defines your future

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You may have heard someone said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend more time with, this is a famous quote from Jim Rohn, and it´s so true. You are the result of everything you let enter your mind and body.

Are you aware of what you let enter your mind? From the books of news you read, to what you hear and what you see all that information that gets into your mind has an impact on your future especially if you believe everything you read, hear and see.

We need to be really aware of what we let get into our mind and body because everything is energy and while some people can take our energy down and bring us to a sustained  negative energy so you keep attracting more negative situations, what we let enter our mind over and over will become part of our experience, the life we´re living right now is the result of our thoughts, emotions and most of the time they are influenced by what´s happening around us.

We´re surrounded by too much negativity nowadays, from negative news 24/7 to negative people that spend most of their time complaining and blaming everyone else about their poor life. If we live like this every day and we let all this negativity get into our mind, then we will continue living a negative life. We are so used to living like this that it has become normal, most of us spend most of our time complaining about certain situations and blaming someone else, we watch news to keep feeding our mind with negativity and then we complaining about the negative situations that happen to us.

The people around us play a huge role here whether they´re our classmates, coworkers, neighbors they can influence us, and they can be one of the causes of the negative and poor life we´re living. I know for some of us it may be hard to change the people around us, we may not change school or job or move to another place but we can reduce the time we spend with them and we can also block their negativity from getting inside our mind and affect our life. In this case we need to learn how to deal with this type of people and also not letting what´s happening around us gets inside our mind, our believes. We can´t let outside circumstances and people affect our beliefs, choices and actions.

It´s all about perspective and what you choose to focus on, we´re born being positive and optimistic but as we grow older we get very negative thanks to all the situations we live and the people around us, most of us live in a society that is really pessimistic and negative and that become part of ourselves and our life but we can train our mind to be more positive and optimistic.

Now we need to talk about food, everything you eat has an impact on your body inside and outside, if you eat healthy foods it´s easier for you to maintain a great mood and be more positive, if you eat unhealthy foods it´s harder to be positive and your mood will be very bad. What you eat also affects how you look, from your hair, nails, skin so make sure that you eat healthy meals to make it easier for you to look young and lean and also feel great.

If you want to change this and start living a much better life you can start right now, it only takes a decision and commitment, decide and commit that you want to live a more positive life and with this comes the action plan. Here are some steps you can start following today:

1.- Train your mind to see the positive in every situation and every person, if someone keeps being negative try to avoid them,

2.- Read books or listen to audiobooks or podcast that help you grow and learn something new every day, for this you need to reduce time watching negative news and reduce time on social media,

3.- Eat healthy foods including healthy fats, fiber, proteins and keep healthy carbohydrates low.

This 3 steps seem so simple and logic, you may have listen or read about them before but it´s hard to do it, you need to be aware and conscious about being positive and you may need to force yourself to read that first book but with time it becomes a part of you and you´ll be amazed at how your life changes.

Give these 3 steps a try for a couple of weeks and let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account which step you found easier to follow and which one was harder for you and also why you think it was hard.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Stress

Our day increases stress

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You wake up from Monday to Friday at the same time, you have breakfast or if you´re late you skip it, you do everything you need before going to school, once ready you take the bus and get to school where you don´t like the classes, some classmates bully you and make fun of you, some teachers don´t like your work and no one seems interested in you, no one listens. You check social media and start comparing yourself with people that look better than you and have a better life (which is not true) and you´re surrounded by negativity the entire day, people complaining, blaming and criticizing and bombarded with negative news 24/7. This is how many of us live every day, this increases stress and it´s getting us sick.

Even when we need stress in our lives, this is not the type of stress we need and our body can only supports this type of stress for short periods of time and in small amounts but when it´s too much of it every day we get sick and this is how most of us live, with high levels of stress every day caused by school, traffic, negative news, negative people.

Also doing something you hate, or something you don´t like leads to stress the same way that working with people you don´t feel safe and comfortable with. This is a huge problem because it doesn´t matter if we´re at school or at job most of us are doing stuff we don´t like and we do it because need to not because we want to so we have high levels of stress and we don´t achieve our best work.

What we eat and the quality and quantity of sleep also have a huge impact on stress, if we get enough high quality sleep our body functions properly so we´re are able to handle situations and respond more positively compared to a night of poor sleep. If we eat highly processed foods which are full of sugar and unhealthy fats, we increase stress in our body.

Some steps you can start following today to reduce stress of life are:

1.- Avoid negative people.- Try to avoid as much as possible people who is always complaining, blaming and criticizing,

2.- Reduce the time or sources from where you read or watch news.- 30 minutes per day (maybe less) is all you need to know what´s happening on your country and the entire world,

3.- Do not take anything seriously.- Do not take comments or critiques seriously, if you can learn from them then fine, use those to learn something and get better otherwise do not get involved emotionally,

4.- Reduce the time on social media.- Reduce the time you spend on social media and stop comparing yourself to others.

5.- Eat healthy foods and avoid highly processed and refined foods that contain sugar, vegetable oils and trans fats.

I know and I understand that for you it may be difficult or impossible to avoid negative people but, I´m sure you can spend less time watching, reading or hearing the news and social media and use that time to read a book. We´re all interested on certain topics and we can find book on all different topics, you can also listen to podcast, interviews or audiobooks, the goal is to spend less time social media and watching news and use that time learning something you´re interested in that helps you grow. This reduces stress and improves your mood.

Since it´s too difficult to avoid negative people and change school or job then we need to find ways to lower stress that are in our control and one of those is food, what we eat. Try to avoid unhealthy foods and focus on eating healthy foods that contain healthy fats, fiber, minerals, vitamins to give your body the nutrients it needs so that it can function and perform better and you feel better.

This are simple steps you can start following today to help you get started but there are other strategies you can use. If you´re dealing with daily stress let us know by leaving a comment on our Facebook and Twitter account which situations increases your stress and how you react to it. If there´s something you want to learn more in particular or you have any other comment feel free to share it with us, we´ll be glad to read you comments, listen to you and help you.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Mindset

Control your mind and you can control your life

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How many times have you given up on your goals or dreams because of your thoughts?

We have a huge potential and we can achieve amazing things in life but the number one reason why we give up or don´t even take the first step is because of our thoughts.

Since we´re born we´re programmed a certain way, this programs go according to our environment and society, our family, friends, teachers, school, neighbors everyone around us will affect our mindset and the life we´re living today is the result of those programs that were installed in our brain so if we want to change something in our life we need to change our thoughts. The reason for this is because everything we experience in real life was first created in our mind.

Our mind is always busy, it´s always thinking repetitive thoughts which most of them are negative based on our old programs, it makes decisions and choices also based on those old programs and almost everything we do is based on that old programming so we keep living the same way year after year.

Our mind can send us all type of excuses and reasons why we can´t do something but all these excuses come from fear and if we let all those excuses control us, we´ll never achieve our goals. We need to be mentally strong and be able to control our mind, every time an excuse appears in our thoughts we need to know that those negative thoughts are not real they are created by our brain to keep us away from the pain and struggle but it´s that pain, that struggle, it´s facing that challenge what will help us learn, grow, improve and get better, we need to be strong enough to control our thoughts.

When we are able to control our thoughts we are able to control our life and we can achieve almost everything we want, controlling our thoughts not only help us attract what we really want but we make better choices which keep us on the right track and get us closer to our goals. When I talk about controlling our mind what I mean is to be aware of our thoughts and every time and excuse or a reason why we can´t do something comes to mind find a way to take action right away before those thoughts paralyze us, every time a negative thought comes to mind making any situation worse be aware of that thought and find a positive outcome for that situation.

Self-discipline is key when we want to control our mind, we need to do what we need to do even when we don´t want to, if we are self-disciplined we will take action and when we take action over and over and over we develop new habits, the habits we need to get to where we want or to live the life we want and when those habits are developed it´s so easy to follow through.

It´s not about fighting our thoughts because most of the time we´ll lose against our mind, it´s about being aware of our thoughts and not giving any importance to the negative ones while increasing our positive thoughts, find reasons why we are capable to achieve our goals and live the way we dream, it´s about having a clear goal, knowing our values and making the right choice every time based on those values and according to our goal.

It´s about taking action even when our mind tells us how tired we are, it´s about making the right choice for our ultimate goal always thinking on the long game even when our mind tells us how bad we “need” a cheat meal in this moment. It´s all about having a strong will power, it´s about being present and not letting our mind fools us.

We live most of our life being control by our mind, this is why we can´t achieve our goals, if you´ve tried to lose weight and for some reason you can´t stick to your diet or get up and exercise your mind may be controlling you, this happens with any goal.

Being able to control our mind is the hardest steps to take when we want to change our life but is the one that will give us the best results in a short period of time, since our brain and mind are the ones taking control of our life it won´t be easy to take that control and power back, one way to do it is by being present, living in the now and concentrating on the activity at hand, concentrate on working on just one activity at a time and really focus on it, with time you´ll see that your mind wanders a lot less. Just by taking action even when our mind is sending all excuses, we´re taking control so stop thinking about what you need to do and deciding whether you want to do it or not just get up and do it.

Have you stop for a while and think about where all those negative thoughts come from? or why is it so hard to act? Let us know by leaving a comment on our Twitter and Facebook account.

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Pam

Lifestyle

Relationships matter

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Have you asked yourself the impact that the people around you have in your life? How does your closest friends, family, classmates, teachers, coworkers, boss impact your decisions and shape your life?

You may have listened that we are the result of the 5 people we spend most of our time with and whether you belief it or not it´s true. We all want to fit in and for most of us it´s really hard to stay true to who we are, to our values and believes so we let the people around us shape our decisions, we behave  and follow what they do so that we´re accepted but if we´re not surrounded by the right people this will have a negative impact on our life.

Our closest friends and people around us can dictate our health, finances, relationships, our lifestyle can be dictated by the people around us if we let them just because we want to fit in so most of our choices are based on the people around us.

We can all achieve amazing things in life and live a happy, successful and fulfilled life but the people we spend time with, our relationships will determine or at least have a huge impact on whether we live the amazing life we deserve or not and the reason for this is mindset, routines and lifestyle.

As we go through life we go through highly stressful, painful, though situations this happens to all of us there´s no way to avoid them and in this moments our relationships can help us go through those difficult times or they can break us more. We need real strong relationships that we can trust and lean on when we need to, and we also need to be there for others when they need us more.

When we talk about a successful life we will only get as high as the people around us, if we spend most of our time surrounded with mediocre or average people we will stay in that level and the principle reasons for this is that we´re not surrounded by people who want to get to higher levels, we´re not surrounded by people who have a mindset of improvement, progress, getting better, keep learning and there´s nothing we can learn from them that can take us to the next level. When we´re surrounded by average and mediocre people and we share with them our idea of success, of living a better life and looking for a fulfilled life they may support us in the beginning but once we start getting results they will try to bring us down.

It´s so hard to reach new levels if we´re not surrounded with the right people, true friends that you can count on, the ones who have been there in those hardest moments and also the ones we may have some disagreements but there´s respect, acceptance, loyalty who have the same values and principles that can create an amazing relationship that includes healthy competition where we challenge each other to improve, to progress, to make our best and create great things.

We need to consider that we all have different values and beliefs, we´re all interested in different things so to make sure that we develop great relationships we need to make sure that the people we want to be around with are those who have the same values and beliefs and that we have something in common, this doesn´t mean that we need to agree in everything and we won´t, what this means is that we enjoy or like the same things and that even when we disagree there´s a level of respect. We know there´s something we can learn from them every day and we´re challenging each other to improve and progress on our own goals and projects, we don´t need to have the same goals but we can still help and support each other to become the best version of ourselves and to keep getting to higher levels.

I need to mention that from the people close to us, our closest relationships we may find someone who is at higher levels than us, they will help us get to those higher levels and continue succeeding, they are the ones we can learn from, there are some who are at our level this may be the ones we spend more time with because we feel comfortable, we´re going through the same kind of lifestyle the problem of spending too much time with them is that we stay in the same level and there are the ones who are below us and this can be dangerous for us because if those people don´t want to succeed they will try to pull us down which is the dangerous part so we need to avoid them but if they want to improve their lives and get to a higher levels then we need to help them so that they can learn from us, improve, get better and succeed.

It would mean so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam