Is there something about your life that you don´t like? Is there something you would want to change?
For most of us is possible to change what we don´t like about our life, I say most of us because we need to have the right mindset. If there´s something we don´t like about our life we need to realize that we are responsible of it, we are the ones making decisions and choices that lead to where we are now so realizing that we are responsible and that it´s on our hands, it´s on us to continue this way or make the necessary changes.
We need to make a decision and make the commitment to change then take action and be disciplined. It is hard to make changes and it takes time but if we are committed to improve any aspect of our life we will work as hard as we need especially when we start seeing progress.
It all starts by taking responsibility for everything we do that is on our control. There are so many things that will happen to us and for many of them we don´t have control over them but many of them are the result of choices and decisions we make so by taking full responsibility and realizing that if we´ve made another decision things would have come out differently, this creates the belief or mindset that every decision we make has an impact positive or negative.
It´s about changing perspective and how we see all situations in life, we can think about everything that happen to us as a negative outcome, that had a negative impact, we blame everyone else and we play the victim role. This perspective only needs to a negative outcome and a negative life.
If we think about it as things happen for a reason, what was the choice I made that lead to this outcome? what could I´ve done differently? what can I learn from this? When we stop blaming someone else, when we stop playing the victim and realize that some of our decisions and choices impact the result then we can start thinking of what we can do differently.
When we do this we feel a sense of ownership and empowerment that makes us realize that we are in charge of so many situations that happen to us, we are in control of so many things by making decisions which can completely change the course of the project we´re working on.
Taking full responsibility for everything we do is hard because this means we need to accept our mistakes and this hurts the ego. If we´re not willing to admit our mistakes or that one decision lead us to the wrong path we will spend the rest of our life blaming someone else and being the victim but if we got what it takes to take responsibility and stop blaming everyone else our life will change. As always we need to start small and grow.
Taking responsibility of our actions also helps us create meaningful relationships and when we´re working in team we are more productive and deliver better results. When we work in a team and we´re the leaders we can´t blame a teammate for a mistake or whatever goes wrong, we´ll lose trust and that person will fear us but if we take full responsibility of everything that happens especially when something goes wrong we make our teammates feel safe and protected which leads to productivity because they know that they we all make mistakes and learn from them, they focus on doing their best work and we get the best results possible.
Taking responsibility helps us be accountable for yourself and others, you know that you have power and that the end result depend on you so you are aware of every decision you make, you know that if you say something you will do it which increases self-confidence and also make people trust you, which also is key to building meaningful relationships.
Once we stop blaming others and complaining and we take full responsibility of everything we do we start seeing a change in our life in so many ways, we see all situations in a more positive light and our relationships start to improve, we know that we are in control of our life and that every choice matter.
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