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Reduce stress by focusing on what you can control

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We all get stressed, actually must of us live with high levels of chronic stress that have a negative impact on our health but, have you stopped for a moment and think how many times that stress comes from things or situations that are out of our hands? Things we cannot control?

We all want to have a sense of control or at least make possible scenarios of what could possibly happen on a certain situation, for some reason we think that if we have control over every single person and situation then we can avoid bad things to happen or we think that by worrying and thinking about the worst result and think about the negative outcomes we can be prepared and know how to respond or we can be safe.

The truth is that we´ll never have total control over everything that is going on and every person and wanting to have everything under control only increases stress.

Even simple things like what other people think and say of you can increase stress and you don´t have control over that. This example keeps so many of us worried and lead to stress especially if we want to please everyone which I impossible, one of the reasons this increases stress is because we´re hiding who we really are so that we can fit in.

Also simple situations like raining or getting stuck on traffic because of an accident are situations we cannot control, we cannot decide when we want to rain and when not and we do not have control over accidents so what we can do is be prepared or sometimes the best things we can do is remain calm and accept there´s nothing we can do and the worst we see the situation the worst everything we´ll get.

There are some steps we can take to make sure that we do not get stressed with things that are out of our hands, here are those steps:

1.- Identify what you can control and what you cannot

2.- Accept that there are some things that are out of your hand and there´s nothing you can do

3.- Identify the real reason why certain things or situations keep you worried, sometimes our mind creates different negative scenarios or results which are not true

4.- Focus on the things you can control, make sure that you don´t waste mental energy and time on the situations and people you cannot control and focus all that energy and time on the things you do have control.

When we focus on the things we can control we usually get great results and we also stop our mind from creating negative scenarios. Since we can only focus on one activity at a time and hold one thought at a time we only need to focus all our attention and concentrate completely on the activity we can control to reduce stress and make sure that we get the best outcome possible.

If you´re going to be in a situation where you know there are some things you cannot control try to have a plan that helps you respond the best way possible, especially if you tend to focus on the stuff you cannot control, have a plan or strategy that helps you stay focus on the things you can control.

Also when you accept that there will always be things out of your hands you can concentrate on working as hard as you can and giving your best, knowing that you did everything you can on what you can control makes you feel satisfied with the result and stop blaming yourself for something that didn´t end as planned especially if that something was out your hands.

We all tend to live with high levels of chronic stress so finding ways and strategies we can reduce help us improve our health and our life. One way to reduce stress by being aware of things we cannot control, that are out of our hands, accepting that there´s nothing we can do and stop focusing on them, instead focus and work on the ones we do have control and make sure we do our best.

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Pam

Motivation

My thoughts on fat Thor

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Avengers: Endgame came out on April 26 and for the past week I´ve been reading and hearing comments about Thor. Most of those comments are negative, some stay at how bad he look but others go deeper by claiming that the other characters make fun of him and how disrespectful that is for obese and overweight people.

In the film we can see Thor with long hair and beard and he´s gained weight, he spend the time playing video games and drinking beer. We can see how other characters make jokes at Thor´s expense but it doesn´t bother him.

My thoughts on this are that Thor went through a lot of pain, physical, mental and emotional; he lost family, friends and people he cared about, and he blame himself for not being able to stop Thanos which makes him feel like failure, he lose confidence so when he return to Asgard he´s dealing with too much stuff and he stops taking care of himself. Then some scenes later he talks with his mom and she sees the pain, that scene when their talking and his moms tells him that everyone fails and then Thor´s line of still being worthy are highly emotional. At the end we see Thor regaining confidence and feeling worthy.

Watching many Marvel movies, especially the ones from Iron Man to Avengers: Endgame we can see that humor is part of all movies. The jokes making fun of Thor from my point of view are not making fun of him being fat which is what most people are saying, it is more to the complete situation, how Thor lose confidence, feel like a failure and stopped taking care of himself which lead to poor habits and how he let himself become this new version which is relatable to many of us.

For me what they did in the movie was an amazing representation of how some situations can lead to depression and alter our lifestyle in a negative way by making wrong choices every day, eating unhealthy foods, lack of exercise, a negative mindset with thoughts that keep us stuck in the past and all this leads to obesity and overweight and that´s just the beginning. This creates a cycle of unhealthy habits which is so hard to stop, we get attached to those experiences and until we let them go we won´t be able to make any change.

We´ve all lived that, we´ve all been through difficult situations and while for some of us it´s easier to let them go and get on the right track faster, for others is very hard and complicated. We all need someone to help us get through those times, also changing the environment is helpful to break our unhealthy habits and routines and start making better choices.

It´s so hard to stop that negative cycle and start making a change, we need to be conscious and aware of every choice we make and if it´s an unhealthy choice we need to change it for a better one, we can´t let our subconscious make decisions because if we do we´ll end making the same unhealthy choices over and over.

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Pam