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What closed doors really mean

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How many times have you heard that every time you see a door close open it? or break that door down?

We all have goals and the moments we start working on them we will face challenges, some of us give up with the first challenge and others give up according to the level of the challenge, some of us will get pass through small challenges while others give up if they require a lot of effort but that´s what a challenge is, it requires hard work and time.

We´ve all been working in projects and we´ve all faced closed doors but, what did you do with those closed doors? did you give up? did you try to open them with the skills and knowledge you already have? how many times did you try to open it?

Most of us prefer open doors than closed doors and the reason is simple, a open door means that we don´t need to work to get to another level we can just get in but this also means that we stay as we are, we don´t learn or grow while when we get to a closed door we need to work if we want to open it and keep going.

For me closed doors mean that there´re some skills, abilities and knowledge that I need to learn or acquire to get to a higher level. The ones who are willing to learn those new skills and apply them to the best of their abilities are the ones who will get pass through that door, and with every door is the same each close door means it´s time to learn something new and become better the best part of all this is that with every new door we become someone else, we grow we can´t continue being who we are if we want something bigger for us there´s something we need to change, we need to become the kind of person who deserves to win.

Closed doors are not for everyone just for the ones who are going to take the time and work as hard as they need to improve their skills, learn new ones and get better. It doesn´t matter how many close doors we need to break we will break them and if those skills and lessons help us grow, becomes better person, increase our knowledge and wisdom the we got nothing to lose and a lot to win.

The reason why we give up is fear, not knowing what´s in ht next room and also being lazy those two excuses are the reason why most of us don´t achieve our goals. If we have a plan there´s nothing to fear but if we don´t want to work hard then there´s no way we can achieve anything and we don´t deserve it either.

Now we can´t just knock at the door and wait to see what happens because in most cases nothing will happen, we need to take action in showing up may not be enough. If we open the door and we find out that it wasn´t the right one then we find another door, this means that there´s not one single way or path to achieve our goals so we need to keep adjusting throughout the journey, but the lessons we learnt from the wrong doors will stay with us, the more skills, knowledge and wisdom we get the more doors we can open.

If we have clarity of what we want to achieve and where we want to get it doesn´t matter how many closed doors get on our way we will open them and we will become the person we need to become to achieve our goals, it´s just about patience, persistence and discipline.

Show up, work hard and open as many doors as possible to achieve your goals, no one will do it for you, we can share with you everything you need to know, all the information you need to break those doors down but you need to put in the time, effort and hard work otherwise someone else will use that information and break those doors.

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Pam

Motivation

We all have choices

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How many choices have you made today?

From the moment we wake up until we go to sleep we make a lot of choices and they starts whit the alarm clock, do we get up or do we hit the snooze button? do we exercise, go out for a walk at least or do we stay in bed? do we have breakfast or skip it? if we do have breakfast do we cook something healthy that includes proteins and fats or do we have a bowl of ox cereal? and we continue like this our entire day.

There are different factors that will impact our daily choices like lack or poor quality sleep, stress, mood, nutrition it´s clear that if we don´t feel good we will make poor choices and if we feel great we will make better choices so everything we do to our body inside and out affects every choice and this becomes a cycle that can be positive or negative.

Sometimes we don´t know which choice is better, when we have doubts they come from a lack of clarity, of not knowing what we want and this goes to our values, beliefs, purpose and commitment. When we know exactly what we want to achieve and where we want to get is easier to make choices we just need to ask ourselves which choice is going to moves us towards our goal but if we don´t know what we want then we will end up making choices that give us instant pleasure based on short term results but in the long run those choices have a negative impact.

To make the right choices we need to be clear on what we want, have a clear end result of our goal and know our values, once we got those 2 clear (we also need to know our purpose in life and what we stand for but our values and goals must be align with them as we saw in other post) it´s easier to make the right choice every time we just need to ask ourselves which on is best for us and the people around us, which one get us closer to our goal or which one has a positive impact and more benefits for us and those one around us.

We always need to think of the long game, in many cases we will have to choose between a short term or immediate result which gives us instant gratification or the long term result where we won´t get any instant gratification or reward, we won´t see results in a short term but the long term result and reward of achieving our end goal is worthy, that´s the one we´re looking for we want the big rewards.

We all have to make choices and those are the ones who shape our lifestyle and success on achieving anything, the ones who have a strong will power and commitment to make the right choice every single time are the ones who win, those who keep making bad choices thinking only the instant reward never achieve their biggest dreams.

Some of us have clarity but for some reason we can´t make the right choice, here we need to ask ourselves if we are committed to that goal if we´re willing to do whatever it takes to go all in and put all our effort, time and concentration on it, we may want to achieve a big goal but we don´t want to work hard or spend too much time, we prefer to go to the party and have fun than spend those hours working on our project, then we´re not committed.

One way to make it easier for us to make the right and best choice every time is to develop habits, routines and systems so that our brain doesn´t need to think about it, if we want to lose weight we schedule a time of the day when we can exercise for 1 hour and we make sure that it can be the same hour every day, if it´s in the morning when the alarm clock sounds we get up and exercise, and we do it every single day until we don´t have to ask ourselves if we want to do it or not.

When we develop as many healthy habits, routines and systems we design our day to be more productive and we also reduce work on our brain so we have more energy to think and make better choices for the rest of the day.

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Pam

Lifestyle

What friendship really means

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Not everyone we meet will stay in our lives forever, not everyone we meet can be called friend.

Some people take more than what they give and we´ll get to a time where we can´t give anymore, some of the people we meet will seem to be good friends they´ll even say to us that we´ll be together no matter what but when something happen they are the first to disappear.

Some people will only take from us everything they can and they won´t give anything and even when it´s good to give there are times where we also need to receive, there will be relationships that are only holding us down or keeping us stuck in that same level or even some that are pulling us down or drowning us.

We all have though moments in our lives where we need someone and those moments are the ones that will show us who our real friends are, the ones who care and are there for us. Real friends will be there when we need them in those tough times even if there´s nothing they can do physically they will show up to listen to us and they will travel the journey with us to build us up. This are the ones we can trust and the ones we can count on.

Sometimes this real friends are the ones we least expect, we´ve been so busy with other relationships giving everything from love, attention, caring and time only to find out that when we need them those were the ones who leave first and the ones we didn´t pay too much attention are the ones who stay there with us and go through all the ups and downs of that difficult situation with us.

Once we find out who really cares, who was there for us even when we haven´t showed up that much in their lives we can´t forget them and we can start building from there a meaningful relationship that will carry on over the years.

There are people in our lives that come and go, that´s normal not everyone we meet will be a friend, we meet them and live amazing moments with them memories full of laughs and great times but in tough times they´re not there for us. We need to accept this and realize that not everyone is willing to give as much as we give or do as much as we do for them, they won´t support us in any way in those difficult times so we need to let them go. The same happens with the ones who are holding us back or who try to pull us back we also need to let them go. 

It´s hard to let go someone to whom you give so much and find out that they won´t do the same for you, one way to avoid this pain is to not get attached to any relationship, this can be hard to if you are the type of person who almost instantly trust everyone.

Building deep meaningful relationships takes time and it can be difficult to find out who is going to be there for us until something bad happens but there are some signs we can consider like who are the ones who showed up only for fun times like parties, dinners, or others type of events where we can have fun but they didn´t show up for some serious stuff. Who only calls us when they need something but when we call them for whatever reason they don´t seem to be so interested. Who doesn´t is willing to give as much as we do, and here we´re talking about spending time together, listening and paying attention.

Real friendship means spending time with people we love and care about, listening, being there in their darkest times, accepting and understanding who they really are, supporting them and we need to show it not say it. Every one can say it but not everyone will show it, the ones who show up are the ones who matter.

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Pam

Stress

Does talking about our goals create stress?

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Have you ever shared your goals with a friend or family member? what was your experience? did they support you or did they told you you´re crazy and you won´t make it?

From what I´ve seen the response to the questions above will vary according to how ambitious your goals are, the more ambitious you are and the bigger your goals it´s more possible that people will tell you that you will fail, if your goals are small it´s more likely that people will support you.

The problem is that when we´re working on a big goal there will be times where we doubt ourselves, we may think that maybe those people we´re right and we are not capable of achieving those big goals, this moments when we doubt ourselves we need someone who believes in us, that help us increase our confidence to get back to work and continue our journey towards our goal, the problem is when we share our goal with someone who doesn´t support us they can even want to see us fail and prove us that they were right and we were wrong. If we see them often they will ask about how we´re doing and if we had achieved that amazing goal and if we respond negatively they laugh.

Most of us are really worried about what people think and say about us and when someone says to us the famous phrase “I told you won´t make it, I told you we are not good enough, I told you you were crazy” the impact of this phrases in our brain can be lethal in a way that we can give up especially if they come from someone we trust and we felt comfortable enough to share our goal. If we want to continue pursuing our goal we may go through stress caused by the anxiety and fear that comes from setting a big goal, plus the moments when we fail and the negative comments from people we trusted.

Whit this most of us may give up feeling like failure, like not being good enough and not deserving better stuff and we can end living short to our potential, not living the way we want to live and stay in a comfort zone, we prefer to stay stuck because now we belief that we´re not good enough, that we´re not capable.

If we are strong enough mentally to keep going even after people laughed at us and the negative comments it we can work a lot harder to prove them wrong and we want to do it as fast as possible, this creates urgency and gives us total concentration on our goal and we take massive action but most of us don´t have this type of mindset and it takes time and effort to develop it but once we get it we will achieve big goals.

Another way sharing our goals can increase stress is because most of the times we share them with people we feel more comfortable and we know they´re going to support us but some of them have big expectations from us and they set the bar really high so we want to exceed those expectations so we can get anxious of not delivering, of not even meeting those expectations and that constant worry of not being good enough, of wanting to exceed expectations creates anxiety and if we´re not aware it can lead to stress.

It´s not about what people expects of us, it´s about doing our best and giving our all in everything we do, we do not need to work trying to impress someone, we do not need to focus on perfection we need to focus on progress, on learning and improving and focus on excellence, what´s the best work we can do with our abilities and skills today and how can we make it better than yesterday.

If we spend time thinking and worrying or what others say and think of us, on impressing others or trying to exceed expectations we will get anxious and stressed, we need to focus on exceeding our own expectations and impressing ourselves.

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Pam

Motivation

Achieving our goals depends of us

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When we set a goal most of the time we already know what we need to do, at least at the beginning and the only thing we need to do is take action, achieving any goal depends of ourselves, if we don´t take action we´ll never achieve anything.

We can share all the tools you need and everything you need to know about fitness, health and success but if you don´t take action the information we give you is useless.

We can have all the information, the best plan and the best ideas but without the work nothing´s going to happen. Action and execution is what get us closer to our goals and the reason why we don´t take action is because of limiting beliefs, low self confidence we don´t keep ourselves accountable all that is holding us back.

What we need to do is increase self confidence, accountability and the belief in ourselves for this we can follow the next steps:

1. Set small goals.- We need to start with small goals that help us increase our confidence, every small goal we achieve will keep us accountable and motivate us to work for something bigger.

2. Choose a new choice you want to make every single day.- There are some habits that we need to change to make any goal sustainable so we need to decide which habits we want to change and for that we need to make a different choice, choose one and do it for at least a month before you take another one. For example waking up 30 minutes earlier every day to take a walk.

We need to focus on progress and not perfection, taking action consistently over a period of time will give us amazing results, it doesn´t matter how small the action is we need to start somewhere.

We can all achieve great things in life the only reason why we don´t get them is lack of action and that lack of action is based on limiting beliefs, excuses which normally are based on fears. We cannot let our dreams die when we got everything we need to go for them, it´s going to be hard, it´s going to be painful but the reward is worthy.

If you have a dream set is as goal and create a plan of action then start working on it. I talk on other posts about taking massive action, you can take massive action with even a small daily activities like waking up earlier and going for a walk, it all starts by developing habits that are going to make our results sustainable in a simple way.

If we have dreams and goals we are the ones who need to work on them, those are our goals not anyone else’s, we need to start working on our dreams so that in some point in the future we can stop working for someone else’s dreams.

If our goals are important enough for us, if they move us emotionally then we will make everything we need, it´s easy to concentrate and work hard when we have a clear end result that motivate us, nothing and no one can stop us and even when we fail we´ll learn from that failure and get up stronger with more wisdom to keep moving forward.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam

Lifestyle

The importance of meaningful relationships

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Our relationships determine how far we´re going to get, we all need of each other and we all need to know that we have someone we can trust and count on in times of need, unfortunately not all of us got someone to count on.

Nowadays building great relationships is not a priority we´re more interested on getting likes on social media. We dive ourselves on our Smartphone trying to escape reality, we don´t give attention to the people beside us but we´re more interested on comparing ourselves with other accounts trying to figure out why we don´t get likes, why we don´t get the attention we want on our accounts and we´re losing what´s more important, creating great relationships with the people close to us.

Don´t get me wrong, I love social media, I love sharing content, meeting people and helping as much people as possible all around the world and this wouldn´t have been possible without social platforms but we all need good meaningful relationships.

There are 3 different types of relationships that we all need to have:

1.- The one you can count on.- We all go through difficult moments in life and we need to have someone we can trust and count on on those moments. We all know that everyone appears on the best times of our life, everyone is at the party having fun but on our darkest times when we need someone to talk to not everyone will be there so we need to know that we have at least one person we can count on on those darkest times.

2.- The mentor.- We need to keep learning so we need to be surrounded by people who knows more than us, people from whom we can learn, they are the ones that will help us reach the next level, once we get to that next level if those people continued learning then they will continue teaching us if not we need to find someone to get higher.

3.- Your disciple.- This one is hard because most people prefer to stay where they are in a comfortable place but if we find someone who wants to achieve amazing things in life and who is open to learn and who wants us to help them get to their next level we need to help them. The same way someone helped us before now is our time to help someone.

The best that can happen to us is to have this 3 relationships and we can but we need to develop them and we do that by being interested in people, taking some time off our cell phone and have a conversation with the people around us, listening to them and really being interested is what help us build good relationships. We need to know that it takes time, if we want to someone to trust us, to believe in us and respect us it takes time the same way it takes time for us to trust someone and to know that we can count on them.

When we find someone who is interested in us, someone who cares and that shows it in everything they do we need to keep that person close to us.

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Pam

Motivation

Leave a legacy

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If we think about the reason or purpose we´re here it´s to make this world a better place, to help as much people as possible and to leave a blueprint that can help the people behind us.

If we have the desire to be remembered by our contribution to society or to the world we need to work on building our legacy, what can we do now to help as much people as possible and to make this a better world?

For me there are two important things here: what do we want to be remembered for? and what blueprint can we leave that will be of help for future generations?

When our time is over how do we want to be remembered? what do we want to be known for? we all have a limited time and we´re here to live our best life possible. People will remember us by how we treated them, how we make them feel and the impact we had on their lives, if we do good for people our impact will last. The more people we help the better not only for us.

Do we want to be remembered as someone kind and generous, always helping the ones around and making people feel important? Then we need to start being kind and generous right now, treat everyone with respect and attention and make them feel important.

What blueprint can we leave behind that help future generations achieve more than we did? For this we need to be clear on our values, principles and priorities. What´s most important for us in our life, do we want to leave a guide for success, how to be a great athlete, how to be a great musician or actor, how to live our best life possible.

We all have different priorities and interest, our life is like a book full of stories structured by chapters, every chapter can be a lesson for others to avoid our mistakes, even when we all need to go through challenges and fail there are some failures and mistakes that can be avoided, this is why autobiographies from great people are a fantastic we take some of their ideas or experiences and apply them to our life in certain situations.

Our purpose help us leave a legacy, our purpose is the reason why we´re here, what do we love doing, what we´re good at and how can we help as much people as possible, when we find our purpose and work on it we live a meaningful and fulfilling life that will leave a blueprint behind for others to follow and will also helps us be remembered in the way we want.

By working and focusing on our purpose we focus on the things that matter, we spend most of our time doing meaningless stuff, we´re just busy but not productive, it seems like we´re doing a lot but we´re actually not making any progress and not getting results. When we think of our purpose as a way to live a meaningful and fulfilling life for us by helping people and making this a better world and also as our way to leave a legacy we get motivated to do what we need to do, we start working toward results and stop wasting time on activities or stuff that doesn´t matter.

Share with us the comment section how do you want to be remembered and what are you doing every day to make that happen.

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Lifestyle

Never stop learning

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Life is the best teacher, it always give us situations and experiences just so that we can learn. Our biggest mistake is thinking we already know, closing the doors to new knowledge to come. We can always learn something new if we are open to learn.

What we´re doing today is defining our future, the people we spend time with, the movies we see, the books we read. You may have heard this quotes and it´s completely true.

The best step we can take is change our mindset, be open to learn from all experiences and from everyone and everything around us so we need to have a clear vision of what we want to achieve and who we need to become to select the people we need to be surrounded with today, the books we need to read today, what movies can we watch today and learn from them. They will be our mentors and guides so we need to keep our eyes and minds open to knowledge.

Insane focus in applying what we learn, making mistakes and improving every day is important, there´s no reason to learn if we don´t apply those lessons and as we keep learning and improving we need to change books, movies and meet more people that takes us through the next level never forgetting who was with us before.

The world is constantly changing and improving and we need to keep changing and improving too, the moment we stop learning we block ourselves from being who we could have been.

We can turn our failures to lessons, our pain and suffering to wisdom and be waiting for the next moment to apply all the lessons, knowledge and wisdom we got to either fail or hurt again and get one more lesson, more knowledge or wisdom or to make the right decisions and get the results we were looking for.

One of the most important things we can learn is about ourselves, learning about us what we like what we hate and why, understanding our emotions where do they come from and when, why do we react or respond a certain way in certain situations.

Understanding ourselves is key to help us make the most out of any situation, when we know our emotions, when we know ourselves and when we know how we really are we know what´s best for us in any situation, we know what goes according to our purpose and the most important point is that we know our strengths and weaknesses and we can improve our weaknesses and we can work on our strengths so that we can improve and be better every day.

Learning about ourselves is the most difficult thing to do but if we want to achieve great goals in life we need to work on ourselves first, when we know who we truly are, when we know our purpose and understand our emotions and when we surround ourselves with great people, when read the right books and watch the right movies and all this is in harmony working towards the same goals that´s when magic happens.

Knowing ourselves, our emotions help us control them and act the best way possible even in tough situations, this lead to make better choices, avoid conflicts and we get better results in our activities.

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Pam

Motivation

We can achieve everything we want

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What would you think if I tell you that we can achieve almost everything we want in life? Would you get excited and interested on how you can do it and why I said almost everything?

The reason why I said almost is because there are 2 variables we need to consider which are:

1. Control.- Is our goal or whatever we want to achieve in our control?

2. Effort.- Are we willing to work as hard as we need for as long as we need?

If our goal or whatever we want to achieve is in our control meaning that we can control our progress almost entirely throughout the journey, our end results and we are willing to work smart, to work as hard as we need for as long as we need then we can achieve whatever we want.

If our goals depend of some external factor we can´t control then there´s no need to focus a lot on them but in most cases when we set a goal or we want to achieve something the end results or whether we achieve it or not depends of us and our commitment to that goal.

For anything we want to achieve we need to make a commitment and keep ourselves accountable, when we set a goal most of the times we already know what we need to do and we know that it´s going to be hard, it´s going to require hard work and it´s going to take time, if we´re not committed and we don´t have a strong reason why we want to achieve it we will fail.

We need to have a clear idea of what we want to achieve and make a plan, almost everything has already been done so we can follow the steps of the ones before us. We already have a guide we just need to take that guide and adjust it to fit our goal and our life so that we can follow it, then we need to take massive action.

If we work smart by doing the right thing, if we work hard and do it for a long period of time we will get results and we will achieve our goal, self-discipline, perseverance and patience are key. For how long are you willing to work as hard as you can?

Having a clear goal with a clear vision in our mind of that goal achieved, an insane focus and obsession and massive action every single day is the secret to achieve whatever we want but not everyone will do it.

Many people will call us insane or crazy but if we want to achieve something worth having we need to own it, all of us want to achieve amazing things but most of us don´t want to spend the time and put the hard work so the ones who are not willing to work hard for long periods of time don´t deserve to achieve success.

Success is not for the lucky ones, success is for the ones who set clear goals, create the plan and work as hard as possible, success is for the ones who own it.

Are you ready to own your success?

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Motivation

Do everything as best as you can

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We spend too much time comparing ourselves to others, we spend too much time watching what others are doing in most cases just to criticize, we spend time paying attention to our outside world instead of paying attention to us.

We all have different talents and abilities and we´re all at different levels, when we compare ourselves or our work to others we´re not considering their level or talent we just focus on the result and this makes us feel like failure, like we´re not good enough. Every time we spend comparing ourselves or watching what others are doing we´re just wasting valuable time, we can spend that time on improving our skill and learning new ones to get better.

When we focus on doing everything as best as we can every single day we feel happy and satisfied, we know that if we do something over and over we will get better.

When we pay attention to what is going around us, what other people are doing or saying we´re focusing on what we can´t control, when we focus on what we´re doing and where we can improve we´re focusing on what we can control.

The best thing we can do is focus on what we can control and aim to do everything we do as best as we can. We need to realize that we can´t be successful at many things at a time so we need to work on one or two activities of projects and become the best at them, we can all become the best at what we do if we put the hard work and time needed so we need to focus and work on mastering our stuff, improving and learning new skills every single day.

We cannot waste time paying attention to external factors that we can´t control and that can break us  emotionally and mentally which is what happens with critiques and haters.

It´s not about comparing what we do, our work and project with somebody else’s work it´s about our work and how we feel about it, there are some simple questions we can ask ourselves to know if we did our best or not:

1. Did I give my all?

2. Could I have done better?

3. Am I proud of the results?

Most of us strive for perfection and for some of us this is a huge mistake that can bring us down by not feeling good enough, we need to strive for excellence, what´s the best work we can do. We need to keep in mind that if it´s our first time doing something the result may not be great compared to someone who has done it several times but with time and practice our results will improve so we need to measure our work or result based on our actual knowledge and skill.

More often than not we are capable of accomplishing amazing results but we sell ourselves short, we don´t give it our all we know deep inside that we could have done better and many times when we do not get the results we wanted is a lack of effort and not a lack of knowledge, practice or skills.

From now on we need to make the commitment to do everything we do as best as we can and our goal is to strive for the best work or results we want based on our knowledge and skills but using them to our full potential and give our all always.

It would so much to me if you share this post with your friends and family and if you follow me on Twitter and Facebook, together we can help millions live a better life.

Pam