I see it every single day, most of us try to please everyone around us as a way to fit in but we´re only hiding ourselves, we´re locking our potential and the key that brings to life our uniqueness.
We are all looking for attention, for approval and to feel loved, to feel cared this is normal but when we really on this too much the consequences can impact our health physically and mentally. Some of us lean too much on the opinions of others and we want desperately everyone around to like us and this is when trying to please everyone becomes a huge problem.
We are all different, we are all unique and when we look for someone else´s approval to fit in our real selves die piece by piece.
Looking for approval and attention from everyone around can come from insecurities and they can take blame for others even when others hurt them. Low confidence, low self-esteem and insecurities are often the trigger for trying to please others, the need of attention, approval and the feeling of belonging becomes their priority without realizing that first you need to love yourself, take care of yourself first
Trying to please everyone every time increases stress and anxiety because we are so worried about fitting in, about what others are going to say about us, we keep thinking on saying and doing the right thing, you are so focused on being someone else, someone who fits in a certain group that you forget to be yourself.
There some things that happen when you please everyone and one of them is that you become easily manipulative, when people notice that they can take advantage of you they will take advantage of you and the reason why you accept, say yes or agree to what they´re asking is because you know they´re going to let you in and be part of a group.
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to always be worried about what to say and what to do so that you can fit in and the others accept you, you try to say what they want to hear for the most part but people sense this, when people find out that you are telling them what they want to hear and you are not being true or honest you are seen as less trustworthy so people stop trusting you.
When you try to please everyone at some point you will fail, it´s impossible to please everyone, we can´t make every single person around us like us, once you understand this it will be easier to accept yourself and be you.
In most cases people respect others when they´re being true, when they are congruent and when they are confident, this doesn´t mean that everyone will like you but by being yourself you´ll find the ones who like you and love you for who you are, you win trust and respect from them and you feel a lot more free.
People how are overweight or obese deal with this a lot but it can happen to any, if you are dealing with this the first thing you need to do is stop looking for approval and attention, stop pleasing everyone and make a commitment to work on yourself, take care of yourself first and start making some changes to your lifestyle to help you increase your confidence and self-esteem and lower your insecurities.
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