All of us need to deal at some points in our lives with toxic people, people that make us feel bad, people who spend most of their time blaming others for their circumstances, criticizing and complaining. If we don´t know how to control our emotions this people will increase our stress.
Socializing with people that affect you emotionally in a negative way have a negative impact on our health, if we are worried and we need to think about what to say to the guy who are talking with because if we say the wrong things the other person will create a whole conflict that could end
We all need other people in our lives, everything is based on relationships, we may need them as a mentor, as clients, team members, they may be our coworkers, teachers, bosses or classmates so we need to understand people and know how to deal with them so that when we know that someone is negative or toxic we know how to handle it the right way so that it doesn´t affect us.
How many times have you fought with someone when it was just a misunderstanding? that fight could have been avoided, how many times have you avoided someone because he or she criticized you, made fun of you or bullied you? this can have very negative impacts in some cases leading to depression, anxiety and even suicide.
How many times when you were stressed or anxious you over eat, binge and take food as your way out because you didn´t have someone you can count on, someone you trust enough to talk too?
We all need to feel safe in the environment we´re at, if it´s at school we need to feel safe, we need to know that the people around (classmates and teachers) are there to support us, to help us grow and to lead our path. If it´s at word we need to feel safe, we need to feel that our job matters, that we´re making a difference.
If at school we´re worrying about what others are going to say of us, trying to go unnoticed so no one make fun of us, if at work we spend most of the time worried of being fired and we know that the boss is more interested on the numbers than on the people this will increase our stress. When we´re living with moments like this every day our body is in a constant alert phase.
We also need to have someone we can count on on those though moments of life, we need to have someone we can talk to, saying what we feel and what we think to others knowing that they won´t judge us in any way relief stress from our body.
When talking about goals there are some steps we can all take to avoid misunderstandings and fights that can lead to bigger problems:
1.- If you know that someone is not going to support you with your goal do not tell them.
2.- When someone tell you that you won´t achieve your goal for any reason, do not take their comments personal.
3.- If you know someone who spends most of their time blaming, criticizing and complaining avoid them.
4.- Whenever you are in a social environment positive or negative try to understand people, try to figure out why they think the way they think and why they react the way they do.
In most cases what people say to you and how they react is the result of what they´ve lived, it doesn´t mean that you are wrong, is a reflection of themselves so the best thing to do is to not get emotionally attached to the comments and do not take them personal, when you are able to do this the negative comments won´t affect you as much.
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