Even when I consider social media to be a great tool to connect with people all around the world it can be the biggest distraction for some of us.
Social media has become like a drug and the way it mess with your brain cause mental problems, it has become the biggest distraction and is highly related to stress.
How much time of your day do you spend on social media? You may go to Facebook to say happy birthday to a friend or family and you stay glued to the news feed when you realized one hour has passed. They are a big distraction and the biggest reason why you can´t get things done.
Social media is a great way to stay connect with people all around the world and it´s an amazing tool to share ideas the problem comes when it is overused which is what happens nowadays. We spend so much time on social media that we forget to give the attention needed to the people around us.
Relationships are highly important in our lives and they have changed completely with social media. It has become our way to deal with stress, every time we feel down, sad, depressed, anxious we take our phone and share a picture of us with filter to get likes because getting likes and comments make us feel good but if we don´t receive the many likes or comments in the next few seconds we start to freak out thinking nobody likes us, we´re not cool enough, there´s something wrong with us.
The reason we share pictures or videos in social media is to gain attention, we´re all looking for attention and to feel accepted, so the moment we share something and we don´t get the attention we were looking for we get anxious. We start looking for reasons why we didn´t get the attention so we compare ourselves with other accounts which make us feel like we are not good enough. This creates a lot of pressure and stress by trying to please everyone else and not being yourself. Here we need to understand that we can´t compare ourselves with anyone else because they´ve not been through what we´ve been through and also realize that many post on social media are photoshopped or use filters so they are not sharing with us their reality.
Companies and even guys all over any social media show you what they want you to see, not their reality so you think that their lives are amazing which in most cases is not true. So you start feeling worthless, that feeling of not being worth enough and not deserving everything you want in life cause anxiety and depression so if you are dealing with real problems in your life and you turn to social media to get attention it will only make the problem worse.
Also most of us use social media to share our thoughts about certain product, service, company, politics and specially to criticize, blame or talk bad about something that went wrong in our day. This creates and endless stream of stress. As you go through your feed you´ll see that a lot of the information is negative, negative news and negative information sell more because it creates fear. People tend to talk about negative stuff more than about positive stuff but seeing all this negative things keep you on a negative state of mind which brings negativity to your life.
Social media is connecting us with people far from us but it´s disconnecting us from the ones in front of us. There´s nothing wrong with social media if you use it the right way and if you have control.
Now, what you can do is very simple, reduce the time you spend in social media the way you can do this is by giving you tasks with time frames, if you have an important task to do set a goal for yourself to not get into any social media until you finish it or if it´s too long then don´t use social media for one hour. When you start any activity, the more time you can remain focused on it the better results you will get and the faster you´ll get it done, depending on the activity you may need to take a couple of minutes of rests, it can be around every 60 or 90 minutes of work and focus and take 5 to 15 minutes of rest or small distractions you can control.
The best option and what works great for many people is to set specific hours of the day for social media and don´t take more than 10 minutes in all of them, you can take 30 minutes of your day and divide those into 10 minutes in the morning and 20 at night or 10 in the morning, 10 at lunch and 10 at dinner.
When you reduce time on social media you have more time to actually focus on your day, your activities and live your life without paying too much attention to what others are doing. Don´t try to please everyone else just be you and don´t compare yourself to anyone else, we all have our own stories so make your story the best it can be.
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