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Don´t take things personal

15 The struggles of being obese

For the past months I´ve been taking more time to see and listen to how people react and respond in different situations, what I´ve found is that we spend most of our time blaming and complaining other people and the circumstances for everything negative that happens to us. We also have the bad habit of criticize and make fun of people, when someone has a big goal we take them down. This happens with people you know they may be friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, classmates.

In our everyday life we can come across with very negative and disrespectful people, it can be the cashier in the supermarket, the waiter in the restaurant or any other that you come across for just a couple of minutes. Having a small misunderstood and dealing with people who is disrespectful even for just a couple of minutes can have a negative impact on you at least for a couple of hours if you don´t know how to act or respond to those events.

The first thing we need to understand and realize is that everyone of us is living their own hell, there will be people who are having the most amazing day of their lives but there will be others who are living the worst day of their life, they have health issues, may be a loved one is in the hospital, someone had an accident, they got fired from their job, etc. They´re living a very stressful situation and even depression or anxiety is making things worst and they don´t know how to deal with all those negative situations so they tend to treat people badly, this doesn´t mean that you did something wrong or that you are looser, the negative way of responding and reacting is a reflection of them.

What you need to do in this cases is work on yourself every day to be immune to those aggressive comments and negative people do not give them importance, ignoring them is a good strategy but not everyone can ignore.

When the negative comments come from someone closer to you like a friend or family member it is harder to ignore them and they can have a negative impact on our emotions and believes. When you set a goal you need to be prepared for the comments and critics, many people are not going to support you and there´ll be someone who try to get you down.

We´re all looking for attention and we all want to be part of a group so when you want to get higher and you set bigger goals many people from that group will try to keep you in that same place because they don´t want anyone around them to succeed, as long as all of are in the same level everything is fine but once you start setting bigger goals and plans that´s when you are crazy, when you´ve changed and when some of those people won´t support you anymore.

The best you can do is do not let any comment affect you, and they way to do that is by not taking things personal, if they think they don´t deserve good things, if they thing they can´t achieve their goals, if they think they´re not destined for something great then that´s fine we all have certain believes of what we are capable and what´s possible but that doesn´t mean that you can´t follow your dreams.

Before sharing your goals and plans with someone else think about it, are they going to support you? in some cases it is better to keep your goals and plans in secret if you know that they´re not going to support you it doesn´t matter if those people are close friends or family, if you know someone who is going to support you and motivate you and who´s going to be there when you need them then go ahead and share your plans with them.

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Pam