Since we´re born and as we grow older, we´re told to fit in, we´re educated to fit in. What a waste of creativity and ideas.
When we´re teach to fit in we lose sense of who we are, as we grow older we feel the need of being accepted of being part of a group and we do everything we need to make sure that we are accepted in a group, in society and that we fit in but we stop being who we are, we hide part of ourselves because we know people will make fun of us.
When you focus on fitting in a group you follow the rules of that group, of society and that leads to a routinely life where you do the same every single day until you retire, many people prefer to stay in this place and live this way, a comfortable zone where they make a decent amount of money but not enough to enjoy as much a they could and they fit in a group. If you are so focused and worried about what people think and say about you then you´ll always be looking for ways to fit in and maintain those behaviors to make sure that you remain accepted on a certain group but, this is limiting your capacity.
If you have a dream you need to be willing to accept that in order to achieve that dream you need to stand out, you need to be willing to be criticized and laughed about your ideas and dreams but you focus and work on them as hard as you can until you succeed.
Successful people stand out, they´re not trying to fit in, they don´t care about what others think and say of them, they are so focused on their goal and they work as hard as they can on it until that goal becomes a reality, until they succeed. It´s hard to get out of a group and stop trying to fit in because people will make fun of you, they will criticize you, they will talk about you but, if you are strong enough, physically and mentally to be able to ignore all those negative comments and concentrate on your idea then no one can stop you.
Here are some steps you can start using today:
1.- Set a clear and specific goal
2.- Figure out what actions you need to take every day to make that goal a reality
3.- Avoid all negativity, this means do not watch the news, avoid negative people and stop negative self-talk, more importantly do not say anything negative out loud
4.- Take action by doing the activities of step 2
5.- Do not worry about what others say and think of you.
In order to succeed you need to be willing to do what others won´t do, when you have an idea or a huge goal you need to be open minded and creative, you need to take every failure as a lesson, you need to work as hard as you need to, you need to be willing to make sacrifices. People will think you are crazy because obviously you won´t fit in but, this is how you succeed.
Everyone has an opinion but, do not let the opinion of anyone defines who you are and defines your life. No one has lived what you had lived, no one has lived the same experiences and those experiences made you who you are.
The way to stand out is to be true to your values, beliefs, ideas and purpose and bring them to reality in a way that improves the lives of millions of people. If you have your values, beliefs and what you stand for really clear then more often than not you won´t fit in, realize that not fitting in and being different, having the possibility to stand out is a way to make a difference now just make sure that you are doing good for others.
Let me know by leaving a comment on Facebook and Twitter if you have been criticized for not fitting in and if you prefer to fit in to avoid being criticized or if you are willing to stand out and make a difference.
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