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Are they really your friends?

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Not everyone we meet will stay in our lives forever, not everyone we meet can be called friend.

Some people take more than what they give and we´ll get to a time where we can´t give anymore, some of the people we meet will seem to be good friends they´ll even say to us that we´ll be together no matter what but when something happen they are the first to disappear.

Some people will only take from us everything they can and they won´t give anything and even when it´s good to give there are times where we also need to receive, there will be relationships that are only holding us down or keeping us stuck in that same level or even some that are pulling us down or drowning us.

We all have though moments in our lives where we need someone and those moments are the ones that will show us who our real friends are, the ones who care and are there for us. Real friends will be there when we need them in those tough times even if there´s nothing they can do physically they will show up to listen to us and they will travel the journey with us to build us up. This are the ones we can trust and the ones we can count on.

Sometimes this real friends are the ones we least expect, we´ve been so busy with other relationships giving everything from love, attention, caring and time only to find out that when we need them those were the ones who leave first and the ones we didn´t pay too much attention are the ones who stay there with us and go through all the ups and downs of that difficult situation with us.

Once we find out who really cares, who was there for us even when we haven´t showed up that much in their lives we can´t forget them and we can start building from there a meaningful relationship that will carry on over the years.

There are people in our lives that come and go, that´s normal not everyone we meet will become a friend, we meet them and live amazing moments with them memories full of laughs and great times but in tough times they´re not there for us. We need to accept this and realize that not everyone is willing to give as much as we give or do as much as we do for them, they won´t support us in any way in those difficult times so we need to let them go. The same happens with the ones who are holding us back or who try to pull us back we also need to let them go. 

It´s hard to let go someone to whom you give so much and find out that they won´t do the same for you, one way to avoid this pain is to not get attached to any relationship, this can be hard to if you are the type of person who almost instantly trust everyone.

Building deep meaningful relationships takes time and it can be difficult to find out who is going to be there for us until something bad happens but there are some signs we can consider like who are the ones who showed up only for fun times like parties, dinners, or others type of events where we can have fun but they didn´t show up for some serious stuff. Who only calls us when they need something but when we call them for whatever reason they don´t seem to be so interested? Who doesn´t is willing to give as much as we do, and here we´re talking about spending time together, listening and paying attention?

Real friendship means spending time with people we love and care about, listening, being there in their darkest times, accepting and understanding who they really are, supporting them and we need to show it not say it. Everyone can say it but not everyone will show it, the ones who show up are the ones who matter.

We need to realize that in some cases when things go wrong the first ones to leave are the ones we consider friends and the ones closer to us, this happen with friends and family and the ones that show up are the ones we least expect so even when it´s hard to realize that the ones we trusted more are the first one to leave we need to move on, let them go and focus on those new people who appear in our life.

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Pam